A typical Nice Guy is someone who:
- Puts others’ needs above his
- Tries to be perfect and hide his flaws
- Is not respected and gets taken advantage of
- Is afraid to take risks and challenge himself
- Is uncomfortable expressing what they really feel or think
The alternative to being a Nice Guy is not to be an asshole, but instead to be someone who is self-assured, empowered, and goes after what they want. Here are 20 life changing steps you need to take to shed that nice guy image.
- Develop integrity; be honest and truthful in all interactions
- Don’t be afraid of the world or trying new things
- Learn to surrender yourself and let go of what you can’t change
- Do what YOU want to do instead of trying to constantly please others
- Learn how to receive and ask for help without feeling guilty or uncomfortable
- Recognize that you and everyone else is human, has flaws, and makes mistakes
- Stop trying to be perfect and flawless
- Stop seeking approval and external validation
- Learn to approve of yourself, and treat yourself to the things you deserve
- Stop building walls that prevent others from getting too close
- Stop trying to cover-up or distract attention from any perceived shortcoming
- Reflect on the childhood events and conditions that influence how you act today
- Set boundaries to prevent people from disrespecting or taking advantage of you
- Learn to be clear, direct, and expressive with your feelings
- Spend more time around men in order to develop your masculine energy
- Recognize that women reject nice guys because they perceive them as weak
- Learn to be more passionate, assertive, independent, and responsible
- Stop putting pressure on yourself to do everything ‘right’
- Don’t let fear of failure or fear of success stop you from living the life you’ve imagined
- Make a conscious decision to make your own rules and not settle for mediocrity