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I was on the phone the other day with a guy I actually look up to. He’s a good two decades older than I am, and he’s built a great business, he’s raised a wonderful family, and he has a great outlook on life.
We were talking about manhood and things along those lines, then confidence.
We both thought about how we actually get confidence…
It’s not from building some great-looking body – on some level that’s a tad feminine. The male body is something use to do something, it’s utility, not something to show off like a lady on a runway.
It’s not even necessarily from earning a lot of money, though that plays a bigger role than the physique, not necessarily because of the money itself, however, but because of the path to get it.
The path, the obstacles overcome, the battles won, the difficulties we conquer, that’s how we both found true, deep confidence.
The Greater the Difficulty, the Greater the Confidence Won
Climbing a mountain gives you confidence. Lifting a big, heavy weight gives you confidence. Beating up an opponent in the ring, and especially an opponent you thought was better than you, gives you real confidence.
It’s the dark moments in life, where our backs are against the wall, where we’re that close to giving up, that are the greatest opportunities to acquire confidence.
When we defeat our demons, slay our dragons, do what we really didn’t think we could do, we become something different, better than we were.
We were the guy with self-doubt. We were the guy who slouched a bit when he walked. We were the guy who compared himself to others, who wished he was someone else or something else.
After that very difficult victory, however, no obstacle seems too big, no pit too deep, no event too drastic.
We become invincible, but humble at the same time.
Our Greatest Trials Produce Our Greatest Self
‘Our greatest self’ sounds cheesy.
Google ‘self help’ and you’ll find a lot of nonsense about ‘creating your greatest self’ through positive thinking and humming and hawing and yada yada yada.
We know it’s a lie.
You don’t magically become your greatest self, you have to earn it.
It’s earned by struggling well. It’s earned by conquering an obstacle, defeating a foe.
It’s the man who’s been through the most, faced the greatest obstacles and both survived and won, that will have the most confidence.
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