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The Ramblings Of A Psychotic ‘Nice Guy’

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"I received these journals (and pen, don’t forget the pen!) plus flowers, candy and a huge stuffed bear from my former cubicle neighbor at a job I worked at for 3 years. As you’ll see, the guy is nucking futs.

These are just a selection. Most of the entries (221 total) are rather mundane, just notating what I wear, and anything that pops into his crazy head that he feels I want to hear him blather on about. Our cubicles were next to each other the whole time I worked at this firm. We were kinda friendly the first six months I was there. Then he asked me on a date. I very politely declined. Very firm that I don’t date co-workers and what-not. After that, besides for a friendly hello, he said almost nothing to me. We were on different teams, so it wasn’t a big deal to me. But after I turned him down, he started keeping this journal. This entry also takes a turn into the crazy end. Up until now he called me pet names and talked as if we were currently dating. This is the first time he really reveals that he’s planned the rest of our lives out for us. The last 9 months of the journals get really bad."

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So that day I went to my supervisor and gave my two weeks notice & that I was planning on using my accrued vacation days during that time. Without getting into all the gory details, I wanted to get out of that place (and I didn’t even know about this psycho yet!). So I packed up my stuff, and was gone before this loser came in.

My friends in the office told me that Psycho Cube Boy was late because he had a doctor’s appointment or something and absolutely melted down when he found out why I wasn’t there. He got sent home, where I assume he wrote this last entry. In the office the next day, he contacted HR and said that I was moving and that I had asked him to bring me my last paycheck stub. So a since-fired HR person gave him my address. He left work at lunchtime, bought a bunch of things he thought would win me over, and came to my apartment. Thankfully, I wasn’t there, as I was flying to another city to rent an apartment for a new job. He camped out in front of my building for three days. Finally someone called the cops on him and he had to abandon whatever his plans were. I got back the next day and found that he UPSed me all this stuff.

Suffice to say, I didn’t react in the way that he wanted. Long story short, he is currently in jail (2-5 years) and I live in a new city, only now able to laugh about what happened, thanks for a kickass therapist and some amazing drugs.

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The Dumping Grounds

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Kill or Be Killed – U.S. Army WW2 Training Film

 

A pastry chef attempting to make gourmet Kit Kats

 

Who Framed Roger Rabbit might have been one of the most complicated and difficult movies to make 

 

Cobra Kai Ep 1

 

Jean Grey was useless on Fox’s X-Men cartoon

 

Inside a Gang Initiation with the Silent Murder Crips

 

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Linkage

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Jaw-Dropping Photos Taken Moments After History’s Most Infamous Assassinations (nsfw) – Weird History

School Superintendent Arrested for Repeatedly Pooping on High School Track – VICE

Natural Facial Serums That Kick Aging in the Ass – Madeover

Disney made a jacket to simulate physical experiences, like a snake slithering across your body – The Verge

Taxi driver mauled to death while taking selfie with a bear in India – Daily Mail

Hands down, best shaver for trimming your pubes! – Bodygroom

How to Gain Power at Work When You Have None – WSJ

13 Celebrities Who Married Their College Sweethearts – Ranker

US Judges Orders Iran To Pay $6 Billion To Loved Ones Of
9/11 Victims – LAD Bible

Teenager’s Prom Dress Stirs Furor in U.S. — but Not in China – NY Times

The Hottest Celebrities In Sexy Dresses – Listmonarchy

Flood insurance companies spend more money on litigation fighting their policy holders’ claims than the victims claims are actually worth – CBS

Tense Bodycam Footage Shows The Moment The Police Entered The Las Vegas Gunman’s Room –

Olivia Culpo Booty in a Thong of the Day – Drunken Stepfather

Hot Instagram Pictures Of Elizabeth Marxs – Lurk And Perv

What Happens to Your Debts When You Die – 2Cents

South and North Korean table tennis teams requested to not play each other in the quarter finals and instead play the semifinals together as one team – Reuters

Brinks Truck Spills Cash All Over Indiana Highway And People Do Exactly As You’d Expect – All That Is Interesting

Shocking Video Of Nurse Inflating Healthy Lungs Vs Smoker’s Reveals What Cigarettes Really Do To You – Bored Panda

7 Psychological Effects That Influence Millions of People – Brightside

What If You Buy A Home At The Top Of The Market? A Look At The Real Estate Cycle – Financial Samurai+

Here’s the Reason You Judge Others More Harshly Than You Judge Yourself – Curiosity

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Pretty Girls Make The World Go Round

The Daily Man-Up

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Many men have fragile egos when it comes to women. I’m not judging, my pride used to get the best of me, too. I couldn’t handle the reality of being rejected or losing a girl — it was one of my worst fears. I lived with a scarcity mentality.

Scarcity mentality is the belief that there’s a limited number of opportunities in your life. With women, if you miss out on a single chance, you’ll never get another like it. What happens is that you view your connections as win or lose situations. It’s black or white:

“If I don’t get this girl, I’m a failure and a loser. I’ll be alone forever. But if I do, I’m a real man and a winner.”

You then do everything in your power to “win” girls over. You will chase endlessly, pretend to be a friend for months or years, disrespect your time, and even let yourself get walked over — all because you can’t let go of this one girl.

This is a needy, desperate, and unattractive way of thinking. You are subconsciously reinforcing:

  • I have no standards for myself and the women who are a part of my life. I will take whatever I can get whether or not they are right for me.
  • I have no options for women. I have to latch onto every chance I get because I am not good enough to find someone else. Women who like me are rare.
  • My self-worth is tied to my ability to attract women and their approval of me.
  • I think of women as objects to be acquired. Their personalities, values, and mutual respect for me do not factor into my desire to sleep with them.

This scarcity mentality leaves you unfulfilled and destroys your self-esteem. Instead, you should be trying to build a mindset of abundance.

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A Few Quotes That Will Get You Introspective About Life

A Few Photos To Remind You That Life Is Beautiful

A Few Clips Guaranteed To Make You Feel Better About Life

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Bone marrow donor give special birthday surprise to the man he saved

It had been two years since Bruce Becke received a life-saving bone marrow transplant from a 26-year-old named Mike Drisgill. Becke, who had been battling leukemia, had never come face-to-face with Drisgill. All he knew was that the Maryland man’s donation had saved his life. So as a means of surprising Becke for his birthday, the compassionate donor and his family flew from Baltimore, Maryland to New Buffalo, Michigan. Becke was absolutely shocked, but extremely happy to have met the man who saved his life. He said the meeting was “a blessed thing that I hope more people can witness.” Both men also hope that their meeting will inspire others to join the donor registry.5

Here are some links with information on how you can join the registry in your country to potentially be matched as a donor:

https://bethematch.org

https://www.giftoflife.org

 

Grandma gives the garbage men cold drinks on a hot day

 

Brotherly love

 

Girl surprise her prom date after not being able to walk for 10 months

 

Emotional moment for Florida police officer Andre Jenkins as he signs off for the last time after 30 years of service

 

Orangutan mother meets Steve Irwin, immediately trusts him

 

"A best friend of mine and I have daughters the same age. We introduced them via FaceTime 4 years ago. They’ve talked daily since and are best friends. They live 7+ hours away and our schedules never lined up to have them meet in person until this moment. Neither of them knew it was happening."

 

When you’re 98 but still her little sister

 

Your parents trying to get you to come inside for dinner when you were playing outside growing up 

 

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The Dumping Grounds

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Bystander tripped an armed man fleeing the police

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Handcuffed suspect runs out of courtroom, nose dives off 2nd-floor railing

 

Sex Addicted Woman Says “Five Times A Day Wasn’t Enough”

 

Infinity War’s Directors Break Down the Thor and Guardians of the Galaxy Scene

 

Approximately 300 people live in the tunnels under Las Vegas in order to do drugs or be alone in general

 

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Linkage

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30 Absolutely Ridiculous Stories of Axl Rose’s Hard Partying Days With Guns N’ Roses  – Weird History

This glue is the duct tape of the 21st century – Sugru

A passenger has been living on Royal Caribbean cruises for the past 20 years – NY Times

How to Get Your Kid to Genuinely Smile in Photos – Offsrping

Bad habits you must immediately break to improve your life in the next 100 days – The Ladders

The Greatest Scientific Breakthroughs of 2018…So Far – Ranker

How to get out of debt (without gimmicks or games) – Get Rich Slowly

Does Keeping Someone On ‘Read’ Make Them Want You More? Here’s What The Experts Say – Elite Daily

Liz Hurley Bikini Pelvic Floor Workout of the Day – Drunken Stepfather

What It’s Really Like to Have a Trust Fund – The Cut

Nicki Minaj Gets Played by Young Perv – Leenks

12 Traps of Consciousness That Smart People Can Bypass – Brightside

Meet The Woman Who Can Remember Every Day Since She Was 12 Days Old – Bored Panda

Hillary’s entire “hit list” just went public. You’ll never guess who’s # – HSI

What a Lifetime of Adderall Does to Your Brain – Mel Magazine

If I was rich, I’d want my kitchen to look like this – Dering Hall

8 WWE Superstars Who Earn Too Much (And 7 Who Earn Too Little) – The Richest

Teen Drives Car Into Fresh Concrete And Faces $10K Bill – Trending Views

Want to Lead a Happy Life? Science Says to Focus on These 10 Things – Becoming Minimalist

Sveta Bilyalova Is So Hot She Can’t Be Human! – Hollywood Tuna

The 1/10th Rule For Car Buying Everyone Must Follow – Financial Samurai

Christina Hendricks, Olivia Holt and Other Random Women – G-Celeb

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Get At This Motivation And CONQUER Your Week!

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The Daily Man-Up

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Our habits are who we are and who we’re going to become.

Most of us, myself included, allow our weaknesses to become habitual.

We habitually watch too much TV. We habitually get distracted when we work. We habitually take days off from the gym. We habitually take the easy path, the path of avoidance, the path of excuses, of reasons not to work, to go the extra mile, to build something better than what we have.

Every day – and think about this with some real introspection – you’re training to become a winner or a loser.

Your habits are what you’re practicing. If you’re practicing focused, hard work on the things that matter, then you’re practicing winning.

If your habits are of avoidance of the things that are important, of laziness, of taking the easy road, then you’re practicing to be a loser.

The things you’re doing TODAY are a part of this training.

Think of how important this is.

Imagine going on as you’ve gone on up to this point and ending your life as a loser, someone who didn’t accomplish a single thing he set out to accomplish?!

Picture yourself on your deathbed filled with regret, wishing you’d done the work, wishing you’d taken the risk, wishing that hard work and focus were your habits not TV and internet surfing.

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Your Weekly Dose Of All Things Jiu-Jitsu

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Darce caught off butterfly sweep!

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Double stab foot sweep

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Side control reversal to armbar 

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No-gi baseball choke puts his opponent to sleep

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How to overcome a 164lbs weight difference

 

Really nice wrestling in this Jiu-Jitsu fight

 

Craig Jones explains how he took Leandro Lo’s back

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Sneak attack promotion to brown belt

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Jiu Jitsu is for everyone!

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F*ck this guy

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LOL!

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A Damn Fine Collection Of Fascinating Photos And Videos

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Eminem just celebrated 10 years of sobriety

 

This animal is called a Vaquita, they live in the northern gulf of California, and there are only 12 of them left

 

Edible Six Pack Rings

 

These airline seats are higher so your legs bend at a slight angle, allowing more seats per plane. 

 

Heart being rushed into the hospital

 

Halle Berry at 51 

 

1990 vs. 2018 

 

The first Pirate Bay server

 

This is what Amazon’s website looked like in 1995 when it debuted

 

Modified steering wheel for armless man

 

Martin Scorsese’s List of 39 Essential Foreign Films 

 

 Advertisement for Ernest Shackleton’s Antarctic experdition

A documentary on Shackleton’s trip to reach the south pole.

 

Congratulations sent to Marvel Studios from Lucasfilm on the biggest opening weekend in history 

 

In 1996, a newborn baby girl was left in a garbage can near the city of Kolkata, India. Three friendly street dogs discovered and protected her for nearly two days, even attempting to feed the child before authorities were contacted and the young one was saved

 

Kim Jong-un’s bodyguards protecting his limo

 

A medical student after six years 

 

Medical gloves designed for medical emergency response

 

Nice Idea For Halloween 

 

Anti-Counterfeit Canadian banknote

 

16 Bad Things that are Decreasing in the World 

 

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What Is It Like To Have An Autistic Child?

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My daughter is nearly 19, she is the 5th of 5 children and if she had been first there would likely have not been more. She is time intensive and energy draining. She is not adaptive. She is at the higher end of the specturm although she has some very extreme deficits as well. 

This past week she told me that she hates my guts, that she never gets enough attention, that is is unreasonable to only get 5 to 6 hours of my attention and conversation a day. We could never get up and just decide to go to the zoo, because she doesn’t operate on spur of the moment. Everything has to be planned well in advance. This makes life very difficult for her, because life is full of small things like ‘this road is closed, detour’ which can result in hours long rants. On some occasions it results in violent tantrums. One time, someone was running through town shooting. It was impossible to get her away from the window and onto the floor for safety, because she had a “right” to look out the window.

When she was little, she wanted to be held ALL THE TIME though she also did not want touched. We used a baby snugli until she just wouldn’t fit any more and I used a baby backpack until she was too heavy to carry around. Diaper changes were horrible. I used to pick her up from daycare and find her still in the diaper she went in because they just wouldn’t touch her after the first couple of tries. She got kicked out of every daycare in town, until I found Early Head Start.

Naptimes? HA. Sleep schedule? Random. She has a thousand texture dislikes, but oddly, loves broccoli and cauliflower. Go figure…. 

So now that you think I hate my child…….here comes the good stuff.
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My daugther does extremely well at verbal communication although the words do not always mean to her, what they do to other people. She has learned to confirm the meaning by asking me what someone meant, if their response seems odd to her. She is extremely adept at finding other autistic people in a crowd and sometimes tells me that this kid or that kid in the store is not misbehaving, they are just “on the spectrum”. She thinks that sometimes, I should suggest their parents find them a better doctor, but of course, most of the time it is not socially acceptible to do so.

She has an uncanny understanding of complex factual materials. She kept talking about wanting to be a fireman so finally, I insisted she take a first aid/cpr class with me. She was homeschooled so was not accustomed to sitting in a regular classroom. She would not look the instructor or the other students in the eye, although one time she got so excited over one concept she became animated and looked at them. It was GREAT. But the coolest part is that she got most of the answers right on the final, even though she has processing deficits. The instructor, on a hunch, asked her the questions that she missed, verbally. She got them all right that way! I was surprised to find out that she knew a lot of the material as we went into the class; she had picked it up on her own time at home, for her own benefit. She was able to hold her own in a class where only one other person had not either had the class or been an EMT before. That’s impressive.

What does her future look like? We don’t really know. She was able to earn her highschool diploma through a homestudy program and has enrolled in online college. She has one or two people that she hangs out with, that accept her for who she is. There are more that she sometimes hangs with that I am pretty certain will get her in trouble, but she is legally an adult and unless I ask for guardianship, she is entitled to make her own decisons. She works about four hours a day, a few days a week. She gets short tempered if she tries to work more than that; it is a strain for her to deal with people that long. Her company found a job for her where she only deals with customers occasionally, and does not have to be with other workers when she can’t tolerate it. She got the job where one of her friends works. I was incredibly proud of her for applying and for carrying through.

Will she ever be able to live alone? That’s the big question. Because she has short term memory deficits she has a tendency to have fires because she forgets to turn the stove off or forgets you don’t put potatoes in the micro for 15 minutes. We went through five microwaves destroyed due to fire in four years. I sometimes think of her as an “absent-minded professor”. She can really surprise people when she has to deal with them, because her understanding of some subject matters is so deep that it is completely unexpected. 

One thing’s for sure, every day is a new challenge, and a new discovery.

– Anonymous

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10 Parents Of Children With Disabilities Reveal Whether Or Not They Regret Having Their Child

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1. I have a 12 yr old with bipolar, adhd, ocd, ied, cd, etc. So mentally ill a.f.

He’s spent multiple times in psychiatric hospitals, the medicines he takes make him feel like shit, they’ve made him fat and his hair fall out. In order to make him compatible with society it takes enough drugs that he is a zombie. He has no personality and no enjoyment. You back off the drugs and he then begins the rapid cycling. But for the few hours at a time he’s not cycling he’s amazing – funny, witty, compassionate, etc. Regardless I love him whole heartedly.

Now…if I knew 13 years ago what I know now, I wouldn’t have had him. Not so much bc it’s hard for me, but bc every fucking day of his life is a struggle for him. He told me once he isn’t living He’s existing. And He’s right.

Also after he was diagnosed we did stop having more children.

 

 

2. I found out during my last pregnancy that my daughter had a severe form of Turner syndrome. She would be born with a heart defect, a kidney defect, and would’ve been mentally retarded among a list of other thing. I was against abortion and wanted to let life play out, so we decided to go through with the pregnancy despite numerous doctors warning us that our daughter would have a terribly tough life. She ended up still born at 25 weeks.

After seeing her, I felt absolutely ashamed – it was so abundantly clear that she was not built for this world. Had she survived, her every moment would’ve been suffering, all while waiting for transplants and procedures just so she could keep suffering. All of that, just so that I could feel better about my choice not to make a hard choice while I was pregnant.

I’m pregnant again now, and have agreed with my husband that if the same thing happened again – we would abort.

It’s easy not to do something like have an abortion. But once that child is born, you (and the child) don’t get a choice. The medical system will do whatever it takes to keep them alive (including prolonging their suffering).

I should’ve stopped her suffering the moment I had the chance. That is the truly noble decision and is way less selfish than allowing my child to suffer just for my own pride. I am sooo thankful that she died!!!!

 

 

3. My 9 year old has autism, and we were told he would never even talk, let alone do all the social things other kids do. We had his birthday party yesterday, and while you’d think he’s only 5 or 6 when he talks, he TALKS. Not only that, he socializes. He’s awkward as fuck about it and tends to just turns tail and wander off when he suddenly needs a break from everything and people, but he does interact.

When he was first diagnosed, I’ll admit that yes, I had some regret. I felt like an awful mother for it, too, then came to terms with the fact that my feelings were NORMAL and I needed to get used to him and everything required for his disability, including therapy 5 days a week, 45 min away in another city.

It took time, but now, no. I do not regret it or him. I’ve learned to take things as they come and cherish all of the milestones my son achieves. After all, they were things everyone said he’d never do!

 

 

4. I have a daughter with autism and epilepsy, she’s 8 years old now. I was 22 when she was born. I did cry a lot when we had her diagnose, because I realized she would be facing SO MANY challenges in all her life. I’m divorced, with shared custody. She spends half the time with her dad and half with me. Our families help whenever they can, but I had to give up my job at the time of the diagnosis, and was fired from the next one, because it’s impossible to work for 8 hours a day when I have to drive 1 hour each way for her to get her therapies. So I’m working part-time now. I don’t regret having her. I love her SO MUCH. Her smile makes my day. She taught me so many things. It is a hard life, but damn, I love her, I love her so much. She has the purest heart and soul. I’m so grateful for having her in my life.

 

 

5. I regret having my 9 year old with autism and oppositional defiance disorder every single day. She is very verbal and can be as sweet as a peach when she gets her way, but doing the hard work of parenting her correctly has been a nightmare.

She was an unwanted pregnancy when I was a dumb 20 year old. I was in a lot of psych meds before I realized I was pregnant that I think messed her brain up. I had taken plan B perfectly like on the instructions the one time I had unprotected sex, I figured that would have been the end of that worry. I didn’t realize I was pregnant until she was about 10 weeks gestation and immediately stopped taking my meds but alas. By the time I could get the money together for an abortion (the closest planned parenthood was a 7 hour drive so no-go there) the pregnancy was too far along. I wish I would have looked into adoption now.

Bio dad has never been in the picture and the first five years were pretty rough but manageable since I had family help and a super supportive husband. Once she started kindergarten she was getting suspended from school constantly for stupid shit like throwing an empty water bottle at the principal or hitting her teacher. Her IEP was essentially worthless and I couldn’t hold down a job or go to school because I had no one to watch her every single week at random times I’d get called to take her home for 2-3 days at a time. So I did what I thought was best and we packed up and moved out of state with her to a much more supportive area with better schools.

We have been here for three years and it’s been hell. Her professional supports – school, in home therapist, the community have all been outstanding but I have no support for myself besides my husband and we are moving back to our home state in three weeks because I’m becoming too ill myself from all of this. She bites, kicks, screams, runs away into traffic, calls us grotesque names when she doesn’t get her way.

Wednesday I had to call the police because she refused to get into the car when it was time to go home and when I was finally able to literally drag her kicking/biting/70lb ass into the car and close it she tried to bust the window open. She took an ambulance ride to the hospital and was a little angel for them when she calmed down and they said she wasn’t a threat and sent her home.

I am very bitter and resentful, I’ve done everything I can for her to give her a good life – she has in home specialists come to teach her coping skills 5 hours every week, she is in one of the best school districts in Pennsylvania, I pay for acting and swimming classes for her but when I sit down and have to discipline her or make her do her homework, I get verbally and physically abused and there’s only so much one person can take when you give-Give-give and get nothing in return. I feel guilty because her baby brother is neurotypical and we have a very strong bond and I love him more but I am becoming more apathetic every day to my toxic feelings towards my daughter.

Almost always I hope that when we move back home that she gets arrested and ends up in juvenile detention so she can see how good she has it at home with me and so I can get a break from her.

 

 

6. Some days I do, however most days I don’t. I would rather that he was “normal” as apposed to not existing at all. Sometimes I envy him, he doesn’t have a care in the world because he doesn’t have the mental capacity to do so. End of the day, fact of the matter is, we can’t go back in time and make changes. We have to accept life. My son will be 20 years old next year, he’s on the spectrum, has a type of dwarfism and epilepsy, unlike a lot of young adults he goes to respite with, he is very much easy to manage. He never throws a tantrum and therefore makes his care givers work a little easier.
As they say “there is always somebody worse off than you”.

 

 

7. I had Rubella (German measles) in the first trimester of my pregnancy. As a result my son was born deaf, with ADHD and is probably on the spectrum, although they didn’t diagnose it often back in the 70’s. As he grew older I realized that he was probably a sociopath as well, although that wasn’t diagnosed either. I started doing my own research and realized I had a child with massive problems and impossible behaviors that no one but me and his school system recognized. Unfortunately they decided that I was making him have the problems, so there was no help there.

I did everything possible to teach him, well…anything, but he never cared to learn. He was horrible to animals (except for his cat) until he realized that it wasn’t good for his own health to act on his impulses. Yes, I beat my kid. Not badly but it had to hurt or it was ignored. Switches that stung worked pretty well. I didn’t want to hurt him, I just wanted him to understand that behaviors have consequences. He refused to learn to sign – the Hellen Keller thing did not work for him. So, he had no language aside from pointing and typical facial expressions and gestures. I had a husband who was an over the road trucker and never home and a mother who refused to take care of herself physically and expected me to do it all. So many stories…

At any rate, when he was 10 I divorced my husband and told him that he had to take custody. He thought I was the problem anyway and did love his kid. Or at least thought he did. He found out pretty fast that the behaviors I described weren’t my imagination. When a string of babysitters quit, he married and moved across the country. Yay, for not having to deal with it any more. I met someone and put myself back together, went to college and got a degree.

One day about ten years after the divorce I got the idiot idea to check up on the kid. I got the stepmom on the phone. She said, god knows what to him. He wanted to come and visit in a few days. When I said that was impossible due to work and that I needed a week to arrange some time off. He apparently literally destroyed his room and beat up the neighbor. She told me never to contact them again. No problem. I changed my name and never tried again.

Well, it’s been thirty years and I did a google search for him. He’s in prison doing 15 to to life for raping a child. She was eleven. He’s 6’6 and a monster. I hope someone shoves a shiv into him so that he never gets out. I’ve worked with disabled children and loved them all. I would have given anything for him to have anything different. It’s hard to take care of a paralyzed child but dealing with one so mentally fucked is impossible. God help any of you who have to do it. You have my greatest respect.

 

 

8. My son has low functioning autism, as well as hyperactivity, various development delays etc.

I regret it every time I walk through the door to him screaming, being aggressive, snatching, and everything else. He’s 5.

He can be the sweetest boy then 10 seconds later screaming the place down, pushing, kicking etc.

Any extra money we have goes on therapy for him. We can’t go on holiday because he can’t handle it.

I hate my life and feel so sorry for his younger sister who will never have friends round, get to go on holiday, or experience a normal childhood – because everything is centred around him.

 

 

9. I have a three year old girl with Down Syndrome. We found out about 18 weeks in-utero, when the ultrasound showed a severe heart defect that would need to be surgically corrected three months after birth. She had a twin who didn’t make it. Amniocentesis confirmed the genetics the OB suspected.

At the time, my wife and I lot going on in our personal lives, major life transition type stuff. Building a home, purchasing a business, pregnant with twins… and all the bad news came extremely fast and left us basically shell shocked. We stayed up talking and crying for a couple weeks, ultimately making the decision to give the kid a chance, and knowing that if she wound up nonverbal, paralyzed, eating through a tube, zero quality of life, that whatever quality of life she had (or lack thereof) would basically be our fault for pushing through a pregnancy that had all the warnings signs of “this could end badly”.

We are three years into this now. I’m telling you, this girl is the goddamn light of my life. She spreads joy everywhere she goes. She waves and blows kisses at strangers. She gives hugs for no particular reason. Everywhere we go, people remember her. She’s walking, running, knows more sign language than I do, and picking up words left and right.

She did have her heart surgery at three months old. The defect was corrected, the surgeons saved both our lives.

I think in a lot of ways, parents hope their kids are going to be stronger in areas of their lives where they are weak. I’m pretty introverted and awkward. I feel like most of my life I’ve been waiting for the other shoe to drop, and when we found out about her, it felt like this was it. I was mostly angry that the shoe dropped on my kid. But now I see how much joy she brings to others, how she has no reservations when walking into a group of kids she doesn’t know, how her default mode is “happy” and how it spreads to others quickly.

Biggest things that have changed: Our life plan is no longer to get the kids to 18 and then we’re free. Our plan is that we’re a family together, and she’ll probably be living with us her entire life, and we have to be ok with that. That took a little adjustment, but honestly at this point that feels like a blessing instead of a curse. The other big adjustment is the idea that one of these days, if we don’t take care of ourselves and plan accordingly, she’s going to be alone with only the state and any surviving relatives to help her out. They say one of the greatest tragedies is when a parent out lives there child. When I think about my future, that is actually the goal here. I’m going to do everything I can to take care of myself and my estate so that my beautiful girl has me around as long as she needs me. It’s my honor and blessing to do it. And hopefully shortly after she puts down her burdens, I’ll be able to put down mine and be satisfied with the lives we led.

 

10. Mom of a 15 yo boy born with Sotos Syndrome, Autism (PDD/NOS), Global Pattern Development Delay, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder, and a myriad of other cognitive and intellectual disabilities. What does all of that mean? He is a literal giant (no…really…he is medically classified as a giant and is atypical Sotos) who very much wants to be like his same age peers but is very much in his own little world of Playhouse Disney/Disney Jr. and Star Wars. He is a loving, sweet, funny kid until he isn’t and his triggers vary from day to day. Then he becomes violent: physical aggression, property destruction, self-harm (choking, biting, skin picking, nose picking). He is a very smart person who is also extremely manipulative. Whether that manipulation is on purpose, we don’t know. My son is only 1 in 10,000 people in the world with his specific array of diagnosis and 1 of 25 with his genetic makeup. We know of only 1 other peer in the US like him and that young man lives in Michigan. We’ve never reached out to the family but we’ve thought about it.

My son requires 24/7 care. Special schools. Special camps. Meds. Doctors. Because of his size (6’6″ and 340lbs) we have to special order clothing, underwear, pajamas, shoes (size 18 4E), and socks. We have a home care provider to give us breaks. I recently quit working full-time because the boy was having a “crash and burn” cycle which then played a part in my own crash and burn. We are not rich but we work hard. My husband took extra shifts and I went to freelancing. We’ve gotten our son somewhat on track, but on Friday my husband called me in a panic while I was having an afternoon to myself before our daughters track meet in another town 30 min away…our son attacked him and he had to call the police. It was kind of the “leftovers” from a meltdown requiring restraints from the night before. I raced home. LEO’s were absolutely wonderful. My son calmed before they arrived. My poor husband was really upset and scratched up. We have never had to call for police help before. It was a really sad…milestone…in our sons development.

Do I regret having my son? Yes and no.

It breaks my heart to see him struggle. It rips me to shreds to see him want to travel and drive and have friends and be a “cool dude” like he says, but it just isn’t possible (except he is cool AF to me). It is emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially draining. My husband is my 3rd husband and he is amazing. My sons father has nothing to do with him. This lifestyle can RIP relationships apart and that is hard. I don’t have friends. My daughter, who is 15 months younger than her big brother and was an “oops” baby way before we ever knew my son was high needs, suffers at times. We work really hard to give her every opportunity in the world. My parents help with her a lot. She loves her brother but does not have a high tolerance for his bullshit, so in many ways it is a typical brother/sister relationship and the most normal thing in our lives.

I don’t like that everyone struggles. I regret that part. I regret the pain this causes to my son and loved ones.

But my son saved me. I was a real piece of shit human. Not a good wife. Not even a good mom when the kids were little. I had no ambition. No motivation. I was a full blown alcoholic that was barely functioning. I should have been dead, in jail, and all other horrible things…but he saved me. I’ve always known that I am pretty much the only person he has. I’m his human. He needs me. I understand him and know him better than anyone. I have seen people dismiss him and kind of figuratively toss him aside. I don’t really know what my “lightbulb” moment was, but I remember slapping a guy across the face for yelling at my son and calling him a bitch for screaming (he used to be echolalic) and really being mad someone would say that about my son. This was probably 12 years ago. Around the same time I also began to have a real sensitivity to the R word. To this day I partner with Special Olympics and Best Buddies to increase awareness to Spread the Word to End the Word. I was 22 when my son was born. I had a lot of growing up to do that I fought against for a long time. I was a thot before the word existed. Meanwhile I had this kid who needed an adult…and then I had another kid who needed an adult. It took me a while but I grew up. I learned special education, “the system”, doctors, lingo, and have been a fierce advocate of persons with disabilities living a good quality of life. I am NOT a psycho, puzzle piece wielding, warrior mom who is in all of the Facebook groups and area support groups. FUCK. THAT. SHIT. I do things my own way. It helps that I’m a more solitary person by nature to begin with so the isolation that can come with the lifestyle isn’t so bad for me. I’m pretty calm. I advocate strongly. I know my shit. I vaccinate (no, vaccinations did not and do not cause Autism). We don’t do the shit science diets because there is not a diet that is going to cure this and there is not a diet that will make this better. I do homeopathic things for some comfort of my own, but the pseudoscience moms can just keep all of that shit over in their corner and I’ll stay in my lane and that’s that. We DO track his food on MyFitnessPal and watch what he eats and use calories in/calories out for him. He is built like a brick shithouse. He needs a little help when it comes to food intake.

I love my son for what he has done for me – he made me see the world in a different way. He made me compassionate and kind and strong and articulate. He made me a lifelong student. He made me an expert in my kid. He made me be objective and learn how to play devils advocate. He has forced me to be social. He has shown me that other people are good. He has shown me that people who are assholes aren’t worth our time. He has shown me how to laugh and love and care without limits. He has shown me bravery and courage under fire. He has made me an expert in conflict resolution, problem solving, and research. He taught me to ask questions. He has taught me a lot of what I know about being an adult and good human. I’m learning more every day.

I don’t talk about my son a lot to other people, especially on the interwebs. I don’t post to social media much about my son because I believe that whether he understands me trying to preserve his dignity and right to privacy or not, I respect him and want to do that for him. I talk to my husband, care worker, my own therapist, and that’s it. So please pardon my wall of text. It’s been a rough few days with the big guy, but damnit, I love him to pieces. My kids are my world. My son saved me. My daughter did too, in a different way. I literally could not survive without these little people, who I refuse to believe are growing up. I am a young mom (38 with a 15 and 14 yo) but I’m glad for what that has done for me and them and how we’ve kind of come up together.

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