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The Story Of The Cuban Punk Rock Community Who Chose to Infect Themselves with HIV to Escape Persecution

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It’s hard to imagine why anyone would voluntarily infect themselves with one of the deadliest viruses in human existence, but for “Los Frikis” – a Cuban punk community living under the regime of Fidel Castro during the 80s and 90s – injecting themselves with HIV-infected syringes was the easiest way to escape persecution and police harassment.

Los Frikis, the name than became synonymous with punks, metalheads and pretty much anyone who didn’t fit in with mainstream Cuban society, came together during the late 1980’s. Their music, dressing style and culture were influenced by that of similar communities in the United States and other European countries, something that didn’t sit well with Fidel Castro’s communist regime. Most of the bands also sang in English, which only made things worse for Frikis in general. Although the language was purely an aesthetic choice, speaking English in those days was considered a huge no-no.

Breaking social norms was a risky affair in 1980s Cuba, and the Frikis paid a high price for it. Many of them were rejected by their families, harassed, arrested and forced to do manual labor for their “crimes”. Los Frikis would meet in safehouses located in run-down areas, but other than that they didn’t have many places where they felt accepted. Tired of the constant persecution, many of them  took up a form of protest that can only be described as extreme – infecting themselves with HIV by injecting the blood of their sick friends into their veins.

At about the same time that the Frikis community struggled to find its place in Cuban society, AIDS was wreaking havoc around the world, and the Cuban Government was taking precautions to prevent an epidemic on the island. Its approach involved providing the population with free condoms, aggressively testing the sexually active population for HIV and sending the infected to quarantined sanitariums. Living the rest of your life in a walled medical facility was scary for most people, but for los Frikis it was a welcomed escape from persecution.

State-run HIV sanatoriums were opened all over Cuba during the late 80s and 90s, and while the rest of the nation suffered from massive food shortages, these facilities offered plenty of free food and good medical care. Frikis simply saw them as a better alternative to living on the streets and putting up with harassment from police or imprisonment. And as word of the HIV infection trend spread within the community, they realized that the more of them would do it, the more would be sent to these sanatoriums, so they could live together in peace, free.

“You could hear rock ‘n’ roll and heavy metal coming from every house,” Yoandra Cardoso, a longtime Friki, remembers. “When the sanatorium first opened, it was 100 percent Frikis… we were all here together.”

It’s not exactly clear how many Frikis injected themselves with HIV, but their number is estimated to be in the hundreds. In a time when there were no effective AIDS drugs available, this act was considered a voluntary death sentence, but for them it was a needed escape. “We gave ourselves AIDS to liberate ourselves from society and those laws about obligatory work, and live in our own world,” Luis Enrique Delgado told Newsweek, in 1994.

In 1989 things got better for the Frikis living in Cuba’s HIV sanatoriums, after the Government handed control over them to the Ministry of Public Health. Under the leadership of progressive doctors, they were allowed to sing whatever music they liked, dress as they wanted and socialize with Frikis both inside and outside the sanatoriums. The communist government didn’t bother them anymore.

“At the sanatorium, you would eat three times a day, with a menu that included meat and ice cream. Some rooms had air conditioning,” says Luis Trelles, the producer of a documentary on the Frikis phenomenon.

 

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The Dumping Grounds

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Popular body part models of Instagram: Real Followers for fake fitness – Part 1 of an awesome new YouTube series called Try Hards

 

The Atheist’s Nightmare: The Banana

 

Mattress Store’s 9/11 “Twin Tower Sale”

 

Casually Explained: Is She Into You II – “What’s the worst that could happen?”

 

Meteorologist Vs Irma In Key West, Florida

 

News Anchor Tries To Get A Panicked Reaction From A Floridian, Gets Schooled On How Hurricanes Work

 

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Awesome Stuff Around The Internet

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Death of NFL inevitable as middle class abandons the game – Chicago Tribune

Here’s Another One Of Lindsey Pelas’s Bikini Tops Struggling To Do Its Job – Mandatory

Your Ability to Focus Has Probably Peaked: Here’s How to Stay Sharp – Thrive

Police say nine people using Irma to loot sportswear got what they deserved – Rare

Lions defender has no shame in taking his opponent to suplex city – FanBuzz

Kate Upton Performs “The Cat Daddy”. In A Tiny Bikini. Sweet Baby Jesus – Popoholic

30 Extremely Amusing People of Walmart Photos That Will Make Your Day – Omg Lane

Russian politician says on live TV that Russia stole U.S. presidency – Axios

I Tried Sleeping for Two Hours a Day and Almost Lost My Mind – VICE

Gabriella Abutbol Will Make You Stare At Her Pictures All Day – Yes Bitch

The 25 Best Space Movies, Ranked – The Ringer

14 Ways To Save At Costco, Straight From The Employees – Eat This

Cheap Meals For When You’re Broke (That Doesn’t Suck) – Thrillist

NFL Star Anthony Cromartie Welcomes FOURTEENTH Baby Despite Having Vasectomy – Radass

What It Feels Like to Die – Life Hacker

You Just Won the Lottery. Now Here’s What You Do: Nothing – Wired

The 50 Best Albums of 2016 – Pitchfork

The wildly grotesque erotica of Japanese manga legend Suehiro Maruo – Dangerous Minds

Seven Ways to Be a Good Employee and Make Your Boss Happy – Life Hacker

The Top 7 Tips from Floyd Mayweather for Achieving Massive Success – Knowledge For Men

Exclusive: New Photos Show Bush’s Response To 9/11 Attacks – PBS

Do These 5 Emotionally Intelligent Things Within 5 Minutes Of Meeting Someone – Fast Company

9 Signs That You’re in a Toxic Relationship – Grumpy Sloth

How Do Professional Eaters Chow Down So Much Food? – Mental Floss

Bella Thorne Nipple Slip And Underboob Action – Hollywood Tuna

 

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Hot Instagram Girl Of The Day: Fiona Barron

A Few Glorious Clips For Your Consideration

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DIS MINE NOW 

 

This Translator is the Best 

 

I’ll take some deep fried chicken please

 

Hot magma 

 

Kid improvises after ‘Star Spangled Banner’ cymbal fail

 

In Russia crying drunk men are the equivalent of turtles on the road

 

Recreating Space Jam in his frontyard

 

Boom goes the dynamite!

 

When you nut and she keep fuccin 

 

Seal jumps on boat to get away from Killer whales

 

Love the girl (to the right)

 

Starved puppy finally finds food

 

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The Daily Man-Up

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friendzone bridge

by George P.H.

If you’re a man, you have to agree there’s something magical about women. Like a beautiful sunset, a snow-capped mountain or a gorgeous painting, the right girl will make you lose your breath.

It’s all too easy to get overwhelmed by this feminine beauty, whether internal or external. When this happens, men put women on pedestals and treat them like objects of admiration instead of real people.

In my case, it took some rough wake-up calls to realize that girls are, more or less, just like us. When I finally “got it,” girls started hitting on me a lot more often; my relationships with girls improved tremendously.

I’d like the same change to happen for you. To make that happen, here are 5 reasons to stop putting women on pedestals.

1. This Just In: Women Are Human!

Imagine you’re on a date with a girl who ignores everything you say and just keeps complimenting your looks. No matter how amazing or into you she is, you’ll be creeped out since she likes you superficially and doesn’t care about the real you.

This is how girls feel about guys who place them on pedestals.

Yes, women are amazing. They look beautiful and being around them feels beautiful. But when you admire them instead of communicating person-to-person, they can tell you’re being shallow and fake from a mile away.

Admiring the opposite sex is one of my favorite pastimes, but remember that women are people – not objects to be admired!

2. The Madonna-Whore Complex Will Screw You Up

The Madonna-Whore complex is when you view all women as “either saintly Madonnas or debased prostitute-like personalities.” (My buddy Rami of Gutsy Geek has a great post about this right here.)

Now back to the topic at hand.

When a man puts a woman on a pedestal, he’s also elevating her to Madonna status. He’s attracted to an imagined “purity,” and ignores her sexuality. This is why guys find it hard to make a move on “that one special girl”; their mind tells them she’s not a sexual being.

This is the kiss of death for any relationship. If you put a girl on a pedestal to the point where you can’t be sexual with her, you’ll never have her. And even if you do get her, the relationship will leave both of you unsatisfied sexually.

3. They Don’t Want To Be Above You

Men who put women on pedestals are always trying to win them over. They turn pleasing the girl into their #1 priority; friends, hobbies and work come second.

The ironic thing is, no woman wants to be the biggest part of her guy’s life. If you don’t believe me, look at Twilight – the franchise every girl seems to be crazy about. 

Does Bella fall for Jacob, the guy who’s ready to do anything for her? Hell no! She goes for the dude who always has something else to do and is outwardly unsure whether he wants her or not.

Learn from this and remember that there’s more to life than girls. Don’t turn them into a #1 priority; nobody wants that.

4. They’re Far From Perfect

Both sexes have their own screw ups; overall, we balance each other out. But as a man, you might get distracted by a girl’s beauty and feminine energy and forget this.

My big wake-up call was seeing two girls, best friends for over a decade, fight over me. It was a random event that could happen to anyone, but it was way outside my reality at the time.

Afterwards, I knew girls weren’t the pony-loving, rainbow-riding, lavender-water-peeing angels I thought they were. They were human and capable of mistakes. Remember the same thing and you’ll do well.

5. Because You’re #1!

To quote Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

If you think you’re a great person who deserves the best from life, you’re right.

If you think you’re a horrible person who deserves nothing, you’re right.

If you put women on pedestals and think they’re better than you, you’re right.

Life will simply give you whatever you believe you deserve! So if you put women on pedestals, you’re giving away your own power. Why would you do that?

This is your life: it’s your movie and you’re the star. The only person you should be putting on a pedestal is yourself.

I love women; if you’re a straight man, it’s hard not to. But as beautiful and amazing as they are, they’re no better or worse than us. We need them; they need us; why place anyone on a pedestal when we can all have fun being equal?

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A Few Photos To Help You Scratch That Nostalgic Itch

Life Isn’t All Sunshine And Rainbows

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“I had never felt such bliss in my life. And already after a few hours I slaughtered 1,100 people…” A Croatian fascist concentration camp guard describes a contest between the guards at the death camp Jasenovac to see which guard could kill most prisoners with his own hands in one night

“Franciscan Pero Brzica, Ante Zrinusic, Sipka and I waged a bet on who would slaughter more prisoners that night. The killing started and already after an hour I slaughtered much more than they did. It seemed to me that I was in seventh heaven. I had never felt such bliss in my life. And already after a few hours I slaughtered 1,100 people, while the others only managed to kill 300 to 400 each. And then, when I was experiencing the greatest ecstasy I noticed an elderly peasant standing and peacefully and calmly watching me slaughter my victims and them dying in the greatest pain. That look of his shook me: in the midst of the greatest ecstasy I suddenly froze and for some time couldn’t make a single move. And then I walked up to him and found out that he was some Vukasin [Mandrapa] from the village of Klepci near Capljina whose whole family had been killed, and who was sent to Jasenovac after having worked in the forests. He spoke this with incomprehensible peace which affected me more than the terrible cries around us. All at once I felt the wish to disrupt his peace with the most brutal torturing and, through his suffering, to restore my ecstasy and continue to enjoy the inflicting of pain.

“I singled him out and sat him down on a log. I ordered him to cry out: ‘Long live Poglavnik [Fuehrer] Pavelić!’, or I would cut his ear off. Vukasin was silent. I ripped his ear off. He didn’t say a word. I told him once again to cry out ‘Long live Pavelić!’ or I would tear off the other ear too. I tore off the other ear. ‘Yell: “Long live Pavelić!”, or I’ll tear off your nose.’ And when I ordered him for the fourth time to yell ‘Long live Pavelić!’ and threatened to take his heart out with a knife, he looked at me, that is, somehow through me and over me into uncertainty and slowly said: ‘Do your job, child.’ [Radi ti, dijete, svoj posao.] After that, these words of his totally bewildered me. I froze, plucked out his eyes, tore out his heart, cut his throat from ear to ear and threw him into the pit. But then something broke within me and I could no longer kill that night.

 

Alcoholic father with his son

 

The moment the 2nd plane crashed into the World Trade Center, from a different angle

 

People Falling From The Towers

 

September 11, 2001 there was one American in space. This is the picture he took from the International Space Station

 

Message to wife sent from a passenger on a hijacked airplane on 9/11

 

Bloody traces of a massacre of Tutsi schoolchildren attempting to escape the slaughter by climbing the walls, left on a bathroom wall of the Shagi Mission school, in the southwestern part of Rwanda, after the Rwanda genocide, on August 1994, in a photo taken Annie Leibovitz

 

 

Inside Raqqa: Women’s secret films from within closed city of terrorist sect ISIS

 

Enforcing Sharia Law in Raqqa

 

Father saying goodbye to his son and daughter. He would died the next evening from pancreatic cancer

 

Number one spot for suicides in New Mexico 

 

Pregnant Actress Sharon Tate enjoying a nice day in her yard. A few hours later and steps away she and 4 others would be slaughtered by members of Charles Manson’s crime family. Los Angeles. Aug. 9, 1969 

 

Man infected with rabies describes his condition (with subtitles)

 

Last image of Uruguayan Flight 571, before it crashed in the Andes on October 13th, 1972. Out of the 45 onboard 28 survived the initial crash, and survivors were eventually forced to cannibalize the dead to survive. 16 survivors were rescured 72 days later on December 23rd

 

Cigarette review channel becomes a terminal cancer vlog

Reviewing Marlboro Reds

 

Revealing he has cancer

 

Farwell video

 

Smoker vs Non-smoker lungs

 

Madras Famine in India in 1876

 

“Checked out a book on breast cancer for a research project, someone left their library receipt in it. “

 

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What’s It Like To Be Addicted To Cigarettes

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I’m 30 and started smoking when i was 12. By the time i was 15 I was a full fledged pack a day smoker. Over the years I have witnessed many people fall prey to the habit.

You start by smoking here and there, maybe you don’t inhale at first, maybe you just like to blow it out your nose or smoke it like a cigar. It’s only on certain occasions.

If you are fiddling with cigarettes, you likely have friends that are smoking, also. so you are hanging out, maybe having a few beers, and you see them smoking and decide to be social with them, and also have a cig, but alas, you have none. So you bum a few off a friend for the night. you kind of like it. it just feels good to have one with some drinks or just when you’re talking and laughing. Soon you do this every time you get together for a drink/movie/whatever. It’s not a big deal, it’s just once in a blue moon.

After a while, your friends start complaining that you are always asking for cigarettes but you never seem to have your own, you cheap son of a bitch. Those shiets are expensive. Maybe next time you could come prepared and letother people bum them. So you buy a pack prior to the next gathering. It feels weird to order them at the counter, but whatever. It’s only for the night and you feel like an asshole smoking everyone’s cigarettes all night. You see how they act when they run low. You don’t want to be that guy.

So now you have your own pack of cigarettes. It’s just for the socialness of it. but at the end of the night you have leftovers. you leave them for a friend because what the hell do you need them for? The night is over. It’s not like you’re going to smoke them tomorrow.

Eventually there comes a time where you decide you may as well keep the cigarettes you bought. They are expensive and you’re sick of having to buy them every time you go out, so you’ll just save them for next time.

Now, a weird thing happens when you have your own pack of cigarettes. Maybe you’ll get the idea to just smoke one after a shitty day, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have your own 6 pack while you watch the game. If you have a few beers, you will notice a strange urge to have one of those cigarettes. For the past few months, every time you’ve had drinks with friends you’ve had a few cigarettes. It’s like they go together. It’s just what you do. but there’s no one else there, it’s just you.

So you have a little debate with yourself. You don’t need the cig, but you sure would like to have it. It’s not going to ruin your night either way.

If you decide to have that cigarette, you have fucking failed. you are doomed. doomed. What you have done is solidified an association with having drinks and smoking cigarettes. It is no longer a social thing. you love the little buzz you get. You love playing with it as you sip your drink. You love trying to make smoke rings or whatever other cutesy shiet you do to amuse yourself while you smoke it. You don’t realize it, but you now have a habit. an itsy bitsy manageable habit, but a habit nonetheless.

You may now find yourself looking forward to outings with friends because you can’t wait to have an occasion to smoke a cig or two. you might notice a feeling of “nakedness” if you have beer or two with dinner but no cigarette. You might hang out with your smoker friends on non drinking occasions and feel that same sense of something missing. Then you see someone light a cig and it hits you. You want that fucking thing. Shit. You have another internal debate with yourself about whether or not to have a cigarette without the drinks. You don’t even have cigs on you. If you decide to bum one now, you are officially screwed. You gave in. Now you’ve solidified an association between social occasions and smoking. You will come to expect this at gatherings. Going out to dinner? Let me join you for a cigarette. Cookout? You don’t mind if I have one of those, do you? I didn’t bring any because i’m not drinking.

So now you smoke at social drinking occasions, you might smoke when drinking at home, and you also smoke when just hanging out. Your friends again chastise you for bumming their cigarettes. Buy your fuking own if you want one that bad, they say. You promise to bring your own next time…

Now you smoke often enough to expect a cigarette after certain occasions. After dinner? Smoke. Movie’s over? Smoke. Drinks at Bob’s? Smoke. You dun goofed, and it’s all downhill from here. you’ve accidentally built cigarettes into your life.

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The Dumping Grounds

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Top 15 Disturbing Real Deep Web Sites

 

Here’s Why the 2018 Lexus LC500 Costs $100,000

 

How Walmart makes money by pricing milk & eggs below cost

 

Chess Grandmaster Maurice Ashley Plays Chess Hustler

 

Jordan Peterson drops some knowledge everyone needs to hear

 

Residents living permanently in Japan’s cyber-cafés

 

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Awesome Stuff Around The Internet

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Sex, Drugs, Gangsters and MMA: Remembering Pride, UFC’s Wild Predecessor – Bleacher Report

So Iggy Azalea Went The Hand Bra Route Recently – Mandatory

In ‘Super Size Me 2’ Morgan Spurlock Goes After the Chicken Industry – VICE

UFC fighter shares gruesome photo of “ripped finger” – Fan Buzz

Ariel Winter Drops Some Ginormous Cleavage And Bosom Action – Popoholic

The iPhone X feel like the future of the smartphone – The Verge

How Great Founders Present Their Vision – Medium

What Difference Does a Healthy School Lunch Make? – The Atlantic

Hot Instagram Pictures Of Jena Frumes – Lurk And Perv

Burning Man 2017: Stunning Photos From The World’s Biggest And Craziest Festival – Design You Trust

Why American Workers Pay Twice as Much in Taxes as Wealthy Investors – Bloomberg

Chaperones Took A Look At This Girl’s Dress And Kicked Her Out Of The Prom – Omg Lane

Hot girls with muscles (nsfw) – Leenks

Make Every Day a Good Day With This Morning Routine – The Art Of Manliness

Playboy Bunny Jeni Summers Wants To Be Brazil’s Next Miss BumBum Winner – Radass

Cop Writes Guy Ticket For Selling Hot Dogs Without A Permit, Then Takes All The Cash Out Of His Wallet – Rare

Ted Cruz blames staffer for ‘liking’ porn tweet – Newser

7 Actually Realistic Threesome Sex Positions You Can Actually Accomplish – Pairade

The 100 Best Movies On Netflix Right Now – Thrillist

The 12 Best New Restaurants in America – Eater

Izabel Goulart Bikini Pics in Ibiza – G-Celeb

Elizabeth Hurley doing awesome things on Instagram – Hollywood Tuna

7 Things You Shouldn’t Be Able To Buy Online But Can – Grumpy Sloth

Ikea’s AR app lets you test furniture in your home—no Allen wrench needed – Fast Company

When Pink Floyd Tried to Make an Album with Household Objects: Hear Two Surviving Tracks Made with Wine Glasses & Rubber Bands – Open Culture

The View From Pyongyang: An Exclusive Look at the World’s Most Secretive Nation – Smithsonian

5 outrageous projects Russia’s military says it’s working on – Business Insider

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Hot Instagram Girl Of The Day: Ashley Graham

Welcome To Caveman’s Fight Club!

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Max Holloway and Ricardo Lamas stand and bang at UFC 199

 

The boxing debut of Canelo at the age of just 15

 

Canelo demonstrates his defensive skills

 

Brutal back to back knees to the body in Muay Thai fight

 

Frankie Edgar narrowly survives Gray Maynard’s onslaught

 

If You Don’t Know Who Gökhan Saki Is Watch This Clip 

 

Nick Diaz submits Takanori Gomi with the rarely-seen Gogoplata

 

Arms are not meant to bend that way

 

George Foreman goes for a leisurely stroll and produces the most casual KO you’re likely to see

 

Rickson Gracie movement training

 

Rocky Marciano Was A Savage

 

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The Daily Man-Up

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You’ve probably heard the phrase “Nice guys finish last” and perhaps you’ve experienced it as you watch pushy, inconsiderate guys get the job you want or get the romantic attention of someone you’ve been pining for. It doesn’t seem fair, does it? There’s nothing wrong with being nice, but when you’re so nice to everyone that you stop being nice to yourself, your efforts can backfire. Here are some ways to show people that you value yourself and that they should value you, too.

1. Know the signs of being a “Nice Guy”.

  • They believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, that they will get happiness, love and fulfillment in return.
  • They offer to do things for a girl they hardly know that they wouldn’t normally do for just anybody else they know.
  • They avoid conflict by withholding their opinions or even become agreeable with her when they don’t actually agree.
  • They try to fix and take care of her problems, they are drawn to trying to help.
  • They seek approval from others.
  • They try to hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.
  • They are always looking for the “right” way to do things.
  • They tend to analyze rather than feel.
  • They have difficulty making their needs a priority.
  • They are often emotionally dependent on their partner.

2. Stop agreeing with everyone and everything. 

That doesn’t mean that you should disagree or argue for its own sake, but you’re your own person with your own opinions and preferences. If you find yourself agreeing with everyone, you might be undercutting your individuality. Think for yourself and speak up. Not every disagreement is an argument, and a difference of opinion can sometimes lead to interesting discussion in which you learn a great deal about how a person thinks and how they feel about a lot of things.

3. Stop being a people pleaser

Don’t bend over backwards to accommodate everyone except yourself. If you identify with the “nice guy” dilemma, you’re probably a kind person who loves to help people, and that’s wonderful. But don’t be so humble that you become a slave to everyone else’s needs and expectations. It’s healthy to have your own needs and goals, and to fulfill them and help others at the same time, without putting someone else’s priorities way above yours. Avoid “parasitic” relationships where you give, give, give and never get. Strive to form mutually beneficial relationships.

  • Learn to say no. When people ask you to do something that you don’t feel comfortable doing, for whatever reason, you have every right to decline. If you find yourself saying yes without considering your time or desire to help, get in the habit of saying, “Let me check my schedule and get back with you.” This will give you a chance to reflect on your availability and rehearse how you will tell them “no”. There are manipulative people in the world who will make you feel guilty (in a very subtle way). Learn how to recognize a controlling or manipulative relationship and break the pattern.
  • Use nonviolent communication to convey your discomfort, concerns or needs. Some people are taught that it’s not nice to say anything negative, but the fact is that there are conflicts in life and they need to be addressed in order to be resolved so we can have healthy, balanced and happy relationships. By learning gentle communication skills, such as giving a feedback sandwich, you’ll feel much better about discussing topics that you would normally avoid.

4. Draw the line

Don’t allow people to disrespect or ignore you. Stand up for yourself. If a co-worker steals your idea and passes it off as his own, you’re not being nice by letting it slide. You’re being cowardly. If your date doesn’t show up, and doesn’t even bother to call beforehand or afterwards to explain, you’re not being nice by overlooking a lack of consideration. You’re being a doormat.

5. Pace yourself 

Be patient with yourself and with others. At work, this means not biting off more than you can chew. In dating, it means not getting too attached too quickly. Don’t give someone everything they want, all at once, and expect nothing in return. Every relationship is a two-way street.

  • At work, do you regularly stay late without being asked? Do you volunteer to help more than others, or pick up the slack for your co-workers? By doing this, you’re communicating to your boss and co-workers that your time is not valuable; you give it away frequently and without being asked, and you never indicate that there’s anything else you’d like to do with your time, and they might even be convinced that you enjoy staying late and working extra hard. To bring some balance back into the situation, there are a few things you can do:
    • If your boss is giving you all the extra work because you do a better job than your co-workers, then ask for a raise or promotion.
    • Ask your boss about hiring another staff person, or rotating who stays late until the work load subsides. Ask your boss how long he or she estimates the late nights will be necessary.
    • There are plenty of people out there that rather than do the assignment themselves they will pass it on to you, or even volunteer you to take over a particular project, without even asking you if you’re busy or not. Don’t accept it. Tell them you need to review your workload first. Also let that person know that they should have been considerate to ask you before hand. If you do get dumped on (and you accept) then by all means don’t take on the whole project by yourself. You would be setting yourself up for failure or worse. If you do a great job then it’ll be your assignment for all eternity. Ask for an assistant or two. That way down the road you can come up with your own excuse to back out and leave it in their hands.
  • When dating, don’t shower a romantic interest with flowers, stuffed animals, jewelry, expensive dinners, a cruise, etc. in the very beginning. You’re in the courtship phase and might feel like you need to show how worthy you are, but this person needs to show worthiness of being your mate as well. Does this person meet your standards? Save the bulk of your affection and gifts for someone who already supports you and shows appreciation.
    • Wait for a love-interest to reach out to you once in a while. How could you really be certain that this person wants to spend time with you, if you’re always the one calling and suggesting it?
    • Continue spending time with your friends and pursuing your interests even when you’re dating. Don’t allow a romantic prospect to consume your life.

6. Remember that you don’t need anyone to be happy

Once you feel you “need” something, as in you want it so badly that you’d do almost anything to get it, and it’s something that only someone else can give to you (i.e. someone else’s approval, regard, or affection) you essentially put your happiness completely in someone else’s control. In other words, you give that person all the power, making yourself appear weak and “needy”. Instead, base your self-worth on your own actions and efforts, rather than on how others perceive you. Rejection and criticism is difficult to deal with, but sometimes it’s undeserved. Don’t spend your whole life trying to avoid people thinking negatively of you. Do what you feel is right, no matter what anyone else thinks. All you need to be happy, ultimately, is self-respect.

7. Continue being nice 

The niceness isn’t what gets the stereotypical nice guy into trouble. You can be a gentleman without being a pushover. You can be sweet without being suffocating. You can be humble without being self-deprecating. It’s all about finding a good balance. Surround yourself with nice people who will consider you as much as you consider them, and do your best to teach others how they can be nice to you and in general.

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A Few Answers To Questions You Always Wondered About

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What is the inmate “pecking order” in prison?

Jail and prison populations involve people living in very close proximity to one another (in some housing situations, the toilet seat might be only a few inches from your face when you’re lying in bed), so it is natural to expect that a culture and social structure will emerge.

At the top of the heap would be high-ranking members of crime organizations. Old-style Mafia first come to mind. These guys are still powerful, but maybe not as much as they used to be. More likely you’ll find people in what are usually called “gangs,” e.g. Crips, Bloods, Black Guerrilla Family, Latin Kings, MS-13, etc. There are also gangs that operate mainly within prisons, such as the Mexican Mafia, Aryan Brotherhood, United Blood Nation, etc. Most established prison gangs have alliances with “free world” gangs. 

Members of these gangs, the “soldiers,” are the next level down. They are protected by other gang members, as an insult or assault on any gang member is viewed as an act against the entire gang. The origin of prison gangs was for mutual protection, usually against other ethnic/racial factions. Prison and street crime gangs don’t have much of an equal opportunity program.

Below this level are run-of-the-mill prisoners who have no gang alliance. This is the largest group of prisoners. They do their best to stay out of gang politics and disputes. Barring some complications where one runs afoul of a gang member, it’s easily possible for an inmate to quietly do their time. Prison etiquette must be observed, e.g. don’t disrespect others, don’t help the staff with investigations, remain in your own area, etc., but most will not be pressured to join a gang. 

Some prisoners are called out for their lack of confidence and backbone, and made “wives” of other inmates. Some of their duties are housekeeping and other menial chores, and some are sexual in nature. Assuming this role means you have a protector, so you’re safe from other inmates (as long as your “owner” remains powerful, anyway), but you’re essentially the slave of the inmate who co-opts you. This happens, but not as often as prison movies might have you believe. 

Below this are inmates who are incarcerated for crimes even other inmates find reprehensible. Crimes where the victims could be another inmate’s loved ones are targeted. These include rape and sexual offenses against children. Inmates will victimize these people just to act out rage gathered from other sources, because they have no relevant social status. They are throw-away people. Ironically, these inmates can be the easiest ones for the staff to manage. They are often more intelligent and well-educated than the average inmate, and they don’t want to make enemies among the staff. They might get prison jobs where their intellect is useful, like clerking or assisting with educational programs. 

At the bottom of the stack, lower than low, are informants, or “snitches.” You don’t have to participate in another inmate’s rule-breaking or crime, but you never tell staff what another inmate is up to. Doing so often means a semi-permanent assignment to administrative segregation, where you spend most of your time in your cell and have few privileges or diversions. Even if the inmate you informed on is released, goes to another institution, or dies, he likely still has friends on the inside who will waste no time in reminding you that you violated the inmate code of conduct.

Tim Dees

 

 

What is Burning Man?

First, Burning Man isn’t a music festival (a lot of people think that it is) – it is an experiment in creating a temporary city devoted to art / having a good time for a week in one of the harshest possible places (a dry lake bed that is almost 200 miles north east of Reno, NV…the middle of fucking nowhere).

Again, this temporary city of 80,000 people is built in the middle of a dry lake bed just for the purpose of having fun / seeing cool things. There’s no official music lineup, no food courts, no beer-gardens…unless that is a person or camp decided to do any of those things themselves. There’s no water out there. There’s just as wide a range of things to do there as in any city; you can get fucked up and party at BM versions of clubs, create art for people to see interact with, or create a camp for people to come to for a service or experience, like salon style hair washing.

There’s everything…but there’s also nothing provided for you with your ticket. The only things you can buy there are ice (so food doesn’t go bad in coolers) and coffee/tea at center camp (a long tradition and the money goes to charity). Every camp / person has to bring everything that they need to survive. You can have a really hard time at Burning Man, I’ve seen people really break down and have a bad time because things just didn’t go right, there’s a lot of stuff that is out of your control:

  • It’s often oppressively hot during the day
  • Can get to near freezing at night (literally, two years ago it was 34F on the night of the burn)
  • Frequent dust storms can last for hours and drop visibility to zero
  • You can never really get clean, the dust is everywhere, gets into and onto everything
  • Wind gusts can get up to 70mph and blow camps apart if everything isn’t staked down / in containers
  • If it rains, you can’t do anything because when the playa is wet it is like trying to walk in peanut butter
  • Things break easily because of the extremes and dust
  • You can have bad experiences with crazy people on drugs
  • The line of cars to get in and out often takes hours of sitting to get through (took me 9 hours to leave the playa last year)
  • You constantly need to be drinking water to not get de-hydrated, if you (or the people around you) don’t drink enough you have a bunch of problems; from just general asshole-ishness to serious medical issues

In spite of all that, it is a really good time as long as you understand those caveats and can roll with the difficulties. The people I’ve seen out there who have a bad time are the ones that can’t accept that things are how they are, and just want everything to be comfortable and easy. Also you learn real fast out there that hell can definitely be other people – if your camp doesn’t have a way of helping make sure that everyone gets along / fosters a good feeling between people, then tempers can definitely flare when things start getting difficult.

Everyone who goes is a participant.

The Burning Man organization only plans the city and manages infrastructure (and burns the man in a great fireworks show). Everything else is created, built, and given for free by the people who attend. Like the Tree of Tenere art installation this year , a life-like tree where every leaf had a set of LEDs that could be addressed to make a giant display.

There’s a camp making fried chicken at 2am, camps that build elaborate stages for music, sex camps, camps that sponsor daily games of Scrabble, a camp that sets up a giant tent with a ton hammocks for people to rest in after grabbing a margarita from the bar / singing karaoke, a camp that has a giant plastic box that can let like 60 people have a big naked group shower, yoga camps, a camp that sets up a gym every year…on and on. Yes, there are camps of rich people who pay like $20k to the camp so that they don’t have to do anything. They show up and have a place to stay with air conditioning, showers, and food (notice I said “to the camp” – rich camps are still organized by 3rd parties…it’s not the BMorg). Some burners hate that the BMorg tolerates these camps, but even the most obnoxious ones still usually give back – they create some of the larger sound camps / sound cars that serve as clubs.

There are also art cars, which are cars or buses that have been transformed into something else and are allowed to drive very slowly around the playa. Some are essential giant motorized sound systems (some like Mayan Warrior are seriously impressive laser / light / sound platforms that cost at least a couple million $) that throw huge dance parties. Some are mobile bars where you can cruise around and have a drink in the chaos riding inside a Jawa Sandcrawler. There was one that got retired that was a giant set of bleachers that people would sit on and it would drive around laughing at stuff with people on a mic making jokes.

So for a week you get to experience a different world. There’s no money changing hands. People cooperate as camps to supply each other with the basics for survival and then they also bring stuff (food, alcohol, activities, art, etc) that they think other people would enjoy and then give it away with only the expectation that if they walk around the city people will do the same for them.

It’s NOT a bartering economy like some people who have never been think. You just bring stuff that you think other people would like, and give it to them.

Then you have the fact that literally no one cares what you decide you want to be out there. Want to dress up in old timey women’s clothes all day? Go for it. Want to just walk around naked? Not a problem. No one cares. It’s an incredibly freeing feeling that you can’t get anywhere else. Free to be who you are, free to do fun stuff and not have to think about cost, and yes free to get fucked up / fuck people – if that’s what you want to do.

Also people play up the drugs thing a bit much, alcohol is by far the drug of choice. Every place you go has a bar set up and is mixing some specialty drink / handing out beers. The alcohol flows like water…in fact, easier than water because people will gladly give you alcohol but not water unless you are in need. But you need your own cup as there’s no guarantee that a camp will have any, and disposable cups are in general frowned upon because you have to take out all the trash you created.

The ticket cost goes to infrastructure that is involved with putting on the event, which is far bigger and more well planed than you’d imagine – Here’s what the city looked like in 2016 . The organizers have to deal with:

  • state, local, and federal agencies year round
  • providing medical facilities / EMTs, they even have a field hospital that can x-ray, to not have to helicopter people with broken bones to Reno
  • organizing camps, placing them, and creating the streets
  • bringing and running generators / a limited electrical grid
  • hiring water trucks to run through the city spraying roads to cut down dust
  • organizing an airport and radio station
  • bringing and cleaning porta-poties for 80,000 people
  • building all the ancillary stuff needed to run things
  • subsidize big public art
  • paying people who are out there cleaning up for a month
  • housing the state, local, and federal police who patrol the event
  • and more that I’m not thinking of

The BM organization is a mini government for a city of 80,000 that has to run all year long just to plan this event that lasts a week, and that isn’t cheap. They publish the expenses of each year on the website so everyone can see what the ticket fees were spent on: http://burningman.org/expenses/

Until you go you can’t quite imagine the scale of the event and the level infrastructure. Then on top of that the 80,000 participants bring and make even more and all that comes out of their own pocket and yet people build and make the most amazing things for other people.

So you want to go now…?

Start talking to people to find a camp to join, ideally one where you know people, friends of friends. I feel it is really important to go with a solid camp, one that does something for the community / really has their shit together, when you go for the first time. The amount of planning needed to go is insane, and for a first trip you really shouldn’t be worried about all the details of how you are going to survive, be comfortable, and have a good time. It helps to have people around who can give you tips and tell you what not to worry about. Don’t try and do too much the first time.

Yes, I said “sex camps” earlier…

If you are gay, sex is a lot easier. Camps like Comfort and Joy make it easy to find a hookup. If you are straight things are harder unless you are already there with a person you are fucking. The big mostly straight sex camp (but everyone is welcome), the Orgy Dome, requires you to be there with a partner, and are proactive about kicking creepers out.

Picking up girls there as a single guy can be very difficult, or somewhat easy. Difficult because everyone understands what douchy single guys are after, so shields are up a mile high and a mile thick, and everyone is with a group, so you have to deal with all of a girl’s friends looking out for assholes to keep their friend safe.

Easy because if you aren’t a needy sleaze-bag looking to just fuck, and can actually interact with women like the human beings that they are, you’ll find that they are also people who are there wanting to have fun. You know…like in normal life. If you go as a single straight guy – just don’t plan your trip thinking you are entering a non-stop bone-zone. More than likely you are just going to end up jerking off in your dusty tent, crying yourself to sleep thinking about a girl with amazing tits you rode your bike past earlier that day.

 

 

What’s it like to go through a situation knowing you’re about to die?

I’ve been in a somewhat comparable situation, where I had an expectation that I would probably die. It was unreal, I think about it often. I’m definitely still a little fucked up from it. This was for 30 minutes or so, so I did have some time to ponder my situation. It was during a hiking accident, where I was clutching a wet rock in the middle of a river, over a thousand foot certain-death drop. I was in the mountains, far from people or civilization. Nobody saw me fall, and I was totally at the mercy of luck.

I don’t know how my experience would compare to people who had absolute certainty of death. And I don’t know how different it would be with a few hours to contemplate rather than the 30 or so minutes I did.

It’s a crazy fucking feeling. It was a mix of surreal disbelief, panic, and some resignation (“I guess this is it, huh?). I was thinking about earlier that day and the small steps I could have taken to not be in danger at that moment, if I had just done things differently.

There was a lot of “this can’t possibly be happening, this can’t be happening, this isn’t how it goes for me.”

The visuals and the feelings of when I slipped, couldn’t catch a handhold, and then got tumbled downstream on the mountain are so emblazoned into my memory. The first few moments was the most rapid emotional shift I’ve ever had– from total peace and contentedness to pure surprise and then terror. It was honestly so surreal at first that it wasn’t even scary, just bizarre. And as I got rolled down the mountain, I fully expected to feel either crippling injury or just death at any moment.

I felt a brief amount of relief when I finally got a handhold at the last possible second, right before the hysterically action-movie-style unsurvivable waterfall precipice. OMG, I’m still alive. My eyes and skull didn’t get punctured out by a rock. I’m still conscious. I don’t see tons of blood. But then the quick segue to more terror when I realized my current situation wasn’t necessarily any more survivable.

So for a while I was basically continuously contemplating ways to try and escape from my predicament, and weighing the risks. I knew if I stayed too long I’d get hypothermia/lose my strength/lose my grip and definitely die. I couldn’t see my lower body or torso, so I didn’t know if I was critically wounded and whether or not I could actually move, or if my legs were totally shattered. I was too afraid to reach into the water to feel my legs, because that involved loosening my grip on the rock, and there was strong current. Maybe my first move would be my last. I figured I was highly unlikely to be able to get myself to safety without assistance. So it was this continuous weighing of the risk of doing nothing and waiting for somebody to hopefully stumble upon, vs the timer in my head of how long it would be before I have to try a last-ditch attempt at rescuing myself before I lost too much strength to hold on any longer. I almost just went for it a couple times, but chickened out (thank goodness), and opted to wait a little longer.

I am very, very good at not panicking in stressful and dangerous situations. But this situation was so terrifying that despite remaining calm and rational, I actually had to fight this surprisingly strong and growing urge to just fling myself off this cliff, just so I didn’t have to deal with the situation. It was like… an urge to resign to my fate. The situation was so surreal and dreamlike that my mind was entertaining the idea that maybe I would just wake up.

I was also thinking a lot about how devastated my loved ones would be. I wondered where my body might turn up if I got washed over this massive waterfall in the middle of nowhere. If there were any dams or generator turbines downstream, and if my body would even be recoverable (which is interesting, because I’ve never really wanted/cared about having a grave or a formal funeral). I was thinking the typical stuff about what things I had left that I wanted to do, that I’d never done.

Later on, my group of friends and my boyfriend managed to get to me (I had been travelling with them, but I’d been off doing my own thing away from them when I fell and got washed way the hell away). Turns out one of them saw me when I fell, and they eventually figured out how to climb across the super dangerous rocks to get to where I was. I almost got more stressed, because I was so worried that my boyfriend would see me get washed to my death and get all traumatized by it. I wished that they hadn’t found me.

– glassFractals

 

 

What’s up with the Japanese obsession with tentacles?

Though it’s understandable that different cultures have different taboos and fetishes that manifest themselves in adult entertainment, Japanese porn can be quite the culture shock. After all, why would someone want to watch a young, often underage girl get banged nearly to death by a tentacle monster, usually against her will? While there isn’t a clear reason why young girls or rape fantasies became popular, beastiality, in the form of tentacle porn, was caused by one thing: censorship.

In one of the biggest backfires in pop culture history, some of Japan’s most depraved and strange genres of pornography came about in response to the country’s decision to censor the naughty bits of real-life porn stars.

According to Kotaku, Japan restricted pornography way back in the early 1900s in an effort to make the country seem more appealing to the Western world. Under these new laws, people were banned from making uncensored porn unless it was meant for immediate export.

After World War II, when the U.S. swept in and changed many of Japan’s laws, they kept the strange pornography law intact for some reason. According to Washington City Paper, these laws remained in place all the way up until 1993. Despite the law no longer existing, much of Japan’s porn still features pixelated genitals today.

So what does any of this have to do with tentacles? Well, according to Vocativ, Japan’s tentacle lust started in 1986 when Toshio Maeda, a famed manga creator, published his hentai novel Urotsukidōji, which featured graphic sex acts involving tentacles and supernatural beasts. Basically, Maeda was able to subvert the censorship laws by replacing penises with things that resembled them. Though everyone could tell that the tentacles were supposed to stand in as male genitals, the censors were powerless to stop it.

From there, the strange pornographic subgenre took off and became quite popular in Japan and around the world. Eventually, it got so popular that Japan obtained a reputation for it, which goes everything that the censorship laws were put in place to prohibit.

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Fascinating Photos Collected From History

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The Last Prayer 

Dawn breaks upon the cross of Christ at the bow of a Coast Guard Combat Cutter protecting an allied convoy moving into the zone of war. Led by a chaplain, the Coast Guardsmen sing of the glory of the cross at this impressive service in the forecastle under the guns loaded to battle with their enemies.

 

WWII…Italian soldier dies in North Africa with the photo of his son in hand. The last thing his eyes wanted to see.

 

Bonnie & Clyde’s bullet-riddled Ford V8, 1934

American Experience – Bonnie & Clyde

 

Walt Disney designed a gas mask for children during World War II

 

Dead, frozen Soviet soldier propped up by Finnish soldiers as a warning to other Soviet soldiers during the 1939-40 Winter War

 

A young Franklin Delano Roosevelt Jr., 1930’s 

The Roosevelts: An Intimate History (Available on Netflix)

 

Teddy Roosevelt’s entry in his journal from Feb. 14, 1884, when both his wife and mother passed away within hours of each other

Roosevelt had been called by telegram back to New York City from Albany where he was a New York State Assemblyman. The concern was his mother’s fading health. Alice had just given birth to a baby girl two days earlier. But by the time Theodore reached his home at 6 West Fifty-seventh street, Alice’s condition had taken a serious downward turn. He was greeted at the door by his brother, Elliott, who ominously told him that “there is a curse on this house”.

And so it seemed. Roosevelt’s not yet 50-year-old mother, Mittie, was downstairs burning up with a fever from typhoid. And upstairs, his beloved Alice, scarcely able to recognize him was dying of undiagnosed Bright’s disease. Alice died two days after their daughter was born from an undiagnosed case of kidney failure (in those days called Bright’s disease), which had been masked by the pregnancy. His mother Mittie died of typhoid fever on the same day, at 3:00 am, some eleven hours earlier, in the same house.

After his wife died, Roosevelt not only never spoke her name again, but never allowed anyone else to speak her name in his presence. That included their daughter, Alice Longworth Roosevelt, who never heard her father speak her mother’s name. His belief was, and he told this to a friend who also lost his wife, that the pain had to be buried as deep inside as possible or it would destroy you. This is the opposite of the current opinion that feelings should be shared.

In a short, privately published tribute to Alice, Roosevelt wrote:

She was beautiful in face and form, and lovelier still in spirit; As a flower she grew, and as a fair young flower she died. Her life had been always in the sunshine; there had never come to her a single sorrow; and none ever knew her who did not love and revere her for the bright, sunny temper and her saintly unselfishness. Fair, pure, and joyous as a maiden; loving, tender, and happy. As a young wife; when she had just become a mother, when her life seemed to be just begun, and when the years seemed so bright before her—then, by a strange and terrible fate, death came to her. And when my heart’s dearest died, the light went from my life forever.

 

Portrait of a Union soldier in Missouri, 1863

 

A U.S. Soldier’s snapshot of Marilyn Monroe visiting the troops in Korea, 1954

 

Marilyn Monroe wearing the (sheer, tight, skin-color) dress that made the audience gasp when she sang “Happy Birthday, Mr. President”. It was so tight fitting, that she reportedly wore nothing underneath. May 19, 1962

 

Graves of a Catholic woman and her Protestant husband, who were not allowed to be buried in the same cemetery because of their religion, 1888

 

World War I German Cavalry Lancer, 1918

 

Captured Chinese Soldiers beg for their lives to a South Korean Soldier thinking that they are going to be executed, Korea 1951

 

Last public guillotining in France (Eugen Weidmann), an event witnessed by the actor Christopher Lee. 17 June 1939 

 

Activist Dion Diamond sitting on a counter stool during a civil rights sit-in, Arlington, 1960

 

Monopoly board created by POWs held captive in the Philippines by the Japanese during WWII

fascinating historical photos

 

The identification card of Anny Horowitz, a French Jewish girl murdered in Auschwitz, 1940

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The Dumping Grounds

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John Daly on diet: Cigarettes, candy, 15 sodas

 

Articulate, well spoken, and thoughtful gang leader discusses the inner workings of the Mexican Mafia

 

The Iceman Tapes Richard Kuklinski Inside the Mind of A Mafia Hitman

 

How to Build an Ethereum Mining Rig

 

Documentary looking at the black market website known as the Silk Road, which emerged on the darknet in 2011. The ‘Amazon of illegal drugs’

 

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Awesome Stuff Around The Internet

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A Law Professor Explains Why You Should Never Talk to Police – VICE

Ex-WWE Hottie Eva Marie In A Bikini Was A Summer Highlight – Mandatory

16 years ago, we began a “war on terror” that will never end – Rare

In Surprise Vote, House Passes Amendment to Restrict Asset Forfeiture – The Intercept

Bernie Sanders unveils universal healthcare bill: ‘We will win this struggle’ – Newser

Bri Teresi Loves To Show Off Her Booty – Yes Bitch

22 Photos Donald Trump Doesn’t Want You To See – Trending Pop

Floyd Mayweather ran into trouble when he tried to place a big bet before his fight – FanBuzz

How Facebook Changed the Spy Game – Politico

Five Essential Lessons I Learned In 20 Years Of Managing People – Fast Company

5 Types of Friends Every Man Needs – The Art Of Manliness

A damn fine collection of bewbs, awesomeness and everything in between – Leenks

Miss Texas Calls Out President Trump at Miss America Pageant – The Blemish

A Self-Made Billionaire Reveals the 1 Mental Hurdle That You Must Overcome to Reach Your Potential – INC

Hot girls in just towels – Radass

Lesbians Are Willing To Teach You How To Eat A Girl Out, So Are You Willing To Listen? – Pairade

Ariel Winter Was Out in Beverly Hills for Her Boyfriend’s Birthday – G-Celeb

42 Hottest Instagram Pics of Livia Gullo – Regretful Morning

10 R-Rated History Facts You Weren’t Taught In School – Grumpy Sloth

Sara Jean Underwood Is “Working” Hard For Her Money – Hollywood Tuna

 

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