Feed Your Brain With These 15 Fascinating Facts
Holy Hell, EDC Las Vegas Looked Like One Hell Of A Party!
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These Best Friends Built Their Own Town To Grow Old Together
On the Llano River in Texas stands a line of houses testament to a 20-year friendship.
Four couples decided that the suburban grind was getting in the way of what matters most in life—friends and family. Although they lived in the same town, they felt being scattered throughout subdivisions and living the daily routine of “business as usual” was becoming a major hindrance in cherishing their life long friendship. They all got together and started talking. The Tiny House movement was giving people of no particular affluence the opportunity to live a wealthy life—that is a life lived on their own terms. So they decided to build “Bestie Row” where they could all grow grey in style.
The four couples have remained best friends for 20 years, and so building their own tiny town seemed like the best way to enjoy life to the fullest.
The group combined their money in order to afford a sustainable town they could happily call home as they grow old together.
Each of the four cabins located at ‘Llano Exit Strategy’ was built for around $40,000 and includes a queen bed, couch, bathroom and front porch.
Architect Matt Garcia says of the plywood interiors, “It’s a high-design finish that doesn’t cost a lot of money.”
The roofs are built to collect rainwater into 5,000 gallon water barrels.
Resident Fred Zipp said, “This is a magical place, but it’s arid. We’re doing what we can to reserve as much water as possible for the native trees and grasses.”
The exterior of the cabins are made of corrugated steel in order to help reflect sunlight in the summer.
Jodi Zipp said, “It’s like a Disney movie out here. We have hare, bobcat, deer, and all kinds of birds. As we spend more and more time here, we find more and more.”
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The Dumping Grounds
Game of Thrones Super Mario World parody
“Secret Society” orders pizza… delivery man handles it like a champ.
Action Man: Battlefield Casualties
Dog overcome with joy, faints when it sees its owner after 2 years
Game Changer: Steve Jobs Unveils The Original iPhone – Macworld San Francisco 2007
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Awesome Stuff Around The Internet
10 of the Biggest Game Changing Sneaker Models in History – Worthly
30 Absolutely Stunning Aerial Photos From Around The World – Ned Hardy
Top 20 Sexiest Criminals – Hexagram
How much energy does it take to run the Star Wars universe…they did the math! – Bro My God
Inside The Cabs Of Long-Distance Truckers – VICE
21 of the Dumbest Guys Ever Seen on Facebook – Linkiest
What Are All Those Weird Noises You Hear On An Airplane? – Gizmodo
Jennifer Lopez Bodonka in Yoga Pants – Crowd Ignite
Bill Cosby Jokes About Drugging Girls with "Spanish Fly" In 1969 Comedy Album – Youtube
Why You Should Never Piss Off A Judge (video) – Leenks
Climb ‘El Capitan’ With Google’s First Vertical Street View – Engadget
Kate Hudson Thong Bikini Photos From Greece – G-Celeb
This is What Happens When a Python Tries to Eat a Porcupine – Mental Floss
Regular Women Wearing Victoria’s Secret Swimwear Posing As The Models Did – Radass
The One Haircut That All Women Love on Their Men – Esquire
Oh Dat Tight Dress (40 Pics) – Regretful Morning
19 Ways To Spot A Fake Mexican Restaurant – Thrillist
This girl is absolutely perfect – Double Viking
Someone Decided the World Needed a Deep-Fried Big Mac on a Stick – Eater
Maia Mitchell should definitely be on your radar – Celeb Slam
The 50 Prettiest Porn Stars of All Time – Complex
Star Wars’ Jake Lloyd Lives Up To Child Star Stereotype, Beats His Mother – The Blemish
BMW Concept Roadster Motorcycle – The Gentleman’s Garage
The 50 most beautiful women in the world according to Google – World Wide Intereweb
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Pretty Girls Make The World Go Round
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Reaction GIFs Beeyotch!
When my girlfriend says our waitress is skanky because her thong is showing
After working all day and hearing "We need to talk"
When I trust a fart
When Internet Explorer asks to become my default browser
When the date is over and I can finally fart
When my friend breaks up with his party pooper gf
When the porn I am watching hard cuts to a close up of the guys a**hole just as I pass the point of no return
When I walk into the bathroom to take a dump and the cats are laying in there
When I read on a bathroom stall, "How do blind people know when to stop wiping?"
When her head game is weak but she insists
When my parents tell me I should just go live with them and do nothing after I graduate
On a rainy day someone jokes ‘whatever happened to global warming?"
Coming out of a public toilet after taking a huge sh*t and seeing a long line of people waiting
At the Wal-Mart orientation and they started doing the Wal-Mart Cheer
When the dealer hooks it up
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A Generous Serving Of AWESOME To Help You Celebrate Friday!
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10 Reasons Why Gay Marriage Should Be Illegal
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Life Has Its Share Of Beautiful Moments
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The Dumping Grounds
Tony Royster Jr. crazy metronome practice with the TD-30.
How the FBI caught Ross Ulbricht, one of the creators of the Silk Road
Steve Hughes on the absurdity of political correctness
The best rally car simulator I’ve seen
6’10” Writer pretends he gets drafted in the NBA. Reaps the rewards
Preacher Phil Snider speaks out against Gay Rights….
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Awesome Stuff Around The Internet
15 Photos Guaranteed To Put A Smile On Your Face – Ned Hardy
This Is What Happens When You’re Having Sex – Hexagram
The Flying Car is Here!…..And It’s Really Really Scary – Worthly
Jennifer Lopez Bodonka in Yoga Pants – Crowd Ignite
She’s got legs for days – Bro My God
62 Of The Best Damn Photos On The Internet – Linkiest
Christopher Lee Apparently Knows What A Dying Nazi Sounds Like (video) – Leenks
22+ Funny Illustrations Proving The World Has Changed For The Worse – Bored Panda
Alexis Ren in a damn hot photoshoot – G-Celeb
Would You Spend $500,000 On The Ultimate Porsche 911? – Jalopnik
Kevin Connolly should not be pulling ass like that – Celeb Slam
Stopping HIV? The Truvada Revolution – VICE
28 Useful Tips To Live A Healthier Life – Bad Sentinel
Jiro Dream Of Sushi Of Coffee – Vimeo
The 20 Funniest Closed Captions In TV History – World Wide Interweb
15 Reminders You Need When You Feel Like Giving Up – Marc And Angel
33 Ridiculously Sexy Surfer Girls – Regretful Morning
42 Lemony Snicket Quotes That Sum Up The Absurdity Of The Human Experience – Thought Catalog
Everything about this girl is dayuuum! – Double Viking
Here’s how much it costs to fly Obama from Maryland to Miami and back – Business Insider
More Proof Being Bald and Fat Doesn’t Matter If You’re Rich – The Blemish
Michael Jackson’s Corpse Has Made $2 Billion – Gawker
College Babe of the Day – Ariel Avery from University of Alabama – College Envy
What a crazy underground rave go down in 1994 – Magnetic Mag
25 People Who Quit Their Jobs in the Greatest Way Possible – The Rackup
How The Lexus Hoverboard Actually Works – Wired
1968 Bizzarrini 5300 GT Strada Alloy…A Sexy Super Car – The Gentleman’s Garage
15,000 Penis Measurements Later, We Have an Average Size – Esquire
Cool online game of the week – Strike Force Heroes
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25 Psychological Life Hacks that Will Help You Gain The Advantage In Social Situation
by Andrian
1) Assume comfort in any interaction.
Our brain is an incredibly complicated instrument. Our relationship with it, is a love-hate one. We think we have control over it but usually something unconscious dictates our actions.
In most of our social interactions, we find it difficult to feel comfortable among strangers because our brain tries to protect us from exposure.
This however isn’t helping us when trying to be social and meet new people, is it?
This is why assuming comfort is so powerful. Commanding your brain to feel that you already know the person you are about to meet puts you in a position of advantage. It increases the chances of people showing interest in you and consequently even liking you.
2) Pay attention to people’s feet when you are approaching them.
Interrupting people when they are in the middle of an important conversation is one of the most annoying things to do. It shows that you have zero knowledge of social dynamics which will lead to unpleasant social situations.
When you approach a group of people while in a conversation, pay attention to their bodies. If they turn only their torsos and not their feet, it means they are in the middle of an important conversation and they don’t want you to interrupt them.
If they turn both torso and feet, it means you are welcome. This is extremely important, because the right timing in such situations may put you in a position of advantage, especially if the conversation was boring for both sides.
3) Whenever you have an argument with someone, stand next to them and not in front of them.
We’ve all been in situations where out of nowhere the conversation started escalating.
Unless you love drama, I would suggest you to avoid these situations. You might have the best argument in the world, but usually people get irritated when they feel they are wrong.
So, whenever you feel that the argument you have with another person (especially friends – it’s not cool to fight with friends) creates tension, move next to them. You won’t appear much of a threat, and they will eventually calm down.
4) Whenever you need a favor, open with “I need your help.”
Admit it. We all love to get others to do stuff for us. Either because we are lazy, or because we really need some help to complete a task.
Social dynamics show that when it comes to platonic relationships, nobody really likes an asshole. So whenever you need a favor, start your sentence with “I need your help.”
In most cases, people will accept your request and help you out. This occurs because we don’t really like the guilt of not helping someone out and we do like to be the one who is capable of helping.
5) If you want people to feel good, give them validation. Rephrase what they just told you.
We love validation. Most of our actions are the outcome of our need for validation. So what is the best way to get people to like you? Give them what they need of course. A simple example, is when you are in a conversation with another person and he says something really important for him. After he finishes, rephrase what he just said in your own words. This will make him think that you are a good listener and that you are really interested in him. It makes him feel he is the center of attention. That’s validation right there.
6) If you want to get a positive response from someone, nod while you talk.
This one is extremely powerful and also a bit manipulative especially if the person is suggestive. So use it with your own responsibility and in an ethical way. Getting a positive response from someone is usually what we want. Whether it is making a sale, or promoting a viewpoint, we always want people to get on board. Nodding while you try to deliver your message is a powerful way to get the person to agree with you. People usually like mimicking, so they will most probably nod back while you talk. This will subsequently communicate to their brains that they have to agree with you.
7) Want to see if someone is paying attention to what you are saying? Fold your arms.
Usually when we are in the middle of a conversation and especially if we talk about something very important to us, we get lost in our talking and rarely pay attention to whether the other person is following or not. So instead of losing time talking to a person who is distracted and might not even be interested in what you are saying, do this. Fold your arms while talking and see if the other person follows your move. If the other person is observing you and pays attention, they will most likely mimic you.
8) Having trouble remembering names? Repeat the other person’s name during the conversation.
I suck at remembering names. I usually don’t even listen to the other person when he says his name the moment we get introduced to each other. So usually, I ask a friend to introduce himself to the person so I can listen to his name. But then I forget it again. Awkward. Remembering names is very important because we feel important when someone mentions us. So the moment you meet someone repeat his name. Example: “Hi my name is Alex” “Nice to meet you Alex. So, Alex how do you know John?” And continue to repeat his name throughout the conversation.
9) If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer, just wait. They will keep talking.
This is a very common situation when you don’t know the other person that well or your question wasn’t clear enough. If they finish the answer without providing a full answer, just wait. Stay silent and keep eye contact. If the tension becomes unbearable, raise your eyebrows. It puts a bit of pressure on them but it communicates that you show interest. It also sub-communicates that you are a person that usually gets what he wants.
10) People usually focus on the emotion and not on the subject.
This is very useful in public speaking but also in building rapport with an acquaintance. Whenever you introduce yourself to new people, most probably they have already heard what you are about to say. Well that’s not a problem. Even if you want to talk about the most boring topic in the world, make sure of one thing: Always try to evoke emotions. From my experience the 3 emotions that you want to evoke are: • Excitement • Laughter: Everyone likes to laugh • Intrigue: Leave a little mystery so the other person has to invest energy to hear more. Don’t be purposely distant, but avoid verbal diarrhea.
There are many techniques to turn a boring conversation into an exciting and intriguing one, but here are a couple of my favorites:
- Pause: A lot of the time when we want to keep someone’s attention, we tend to talk really fast, but this subcommunicates neediness and nervousness. A well-placed pause can create tension that makes your words have more gravitas.
- Tone and Inflection: No one finds monotone exciting. Switch up your tone of voice from deep for declarative statements, to high inflection when you want to leave them guessing.
- Paint pictures and compose symphonies in their mind with sensory details: When telling a story, take the person you’re talking to on an emotional journey by describing the colors, sounds, textures, tastes, smells, and how they made you feel. This will cause their mirror-neurons to fire off, making it easier for them to imagine actually being there with you.
So if you want to be memorable, focus on the emotion behind the words. People may forget what you say, but they will never forget how you make them feel.
11) Confidence is more important than knowledge.
Two young candidates walked into the interview office to apply for the same job. The first one had a Phd, two Masters and a Bachelor’s degree. The second one had just a Bachelor. The first one was kind of shy, didn’t talk much, his body language was turned inward. The second one had an upright posture, was looking the interviewers directly in the eyes, showed a lot of interest in the job and his answers where emitting confidence. We don’t have to tell you who got the job.
12) Fake it until you make it.
No one became an expert on anything over night. However, the learning process in everything you do is accelerated by commanding your brain to think what you want it to think. In simple words. You are what you believe you are. • You are confident if you believe you are confident • You are attractive if you believe you are attractive • You are extrovert if you believe you are extrovert If you want to look deeper into this idea look up two words. Neuroplasticity and brain rewiring.
13) Pose in a Power Stance.
This is similar to the previous point, but more concrete than a mantra or belief. Go stand in the mirror, put your hands on your hips, thrust your pelvic forward, pull your shoulders up, back and down, open your chest, tilt your head up, and force the biggest smile you can possibly manage to fit across your face. Even if you consciously know you’re just faking it, your brain can’t tell the difference, and will release endorphins to match your body position. This can feel silly, but it really works.
14) If you want to be persuasive, try and reduce the use of the words “I think” and “I believe.”
I don’t really feel the need to elaborate on this one. Obviously these words do not evoke confidence and the other person will most probably not take you seriously. Change them to ‘I know’ and ‘I will’ instead.
15) A clean and organised environment affects your mood, productivity, and others perception of who you are.
How many times have you waken up without any motivation at all? How many times have you started working on something without being able to get focused and inspired? Next time this happens, take a look around you. Is your environment clean and well-organized? If not, take some minutes to clean it up and put everything into place. You will feel refreshed and reborn and productivity will spark immediately. But not only that, you will come across as caring and punctual, two highly esteemed traits. Why do think most of the big companies pay so much attention to creating the best working environment for their employees? They know what makes them happy and how it affects their productivity.
16) Want to find out which people are close to each other within a group and who is perceived as the leader?
Pay attention to who is looking at each other when everyone in the group laughs at a joke. People instinctively look at and agree with the person they feel closest to within the group.
17) Whenever you call a person you want to meet, show excitement!
Always have this in mind. Excitement is contagious. Why do you think the music video from Pharrell Williams – “Happy” got so many views and so many people were talking about it?
People love excitement! It is like an escape from their boring lives. Never forget that.
(You can mirror this and show disappointment if somebody let’s you down, making them painfully aware of their hurtful actions.)
18) Want to build rapport and gain respect? Match body language.
This is quite a common topic among body language experts and works well if you want to gain respect from a person that has high value.
Example:
You are in a social situation where a person has higher value among others within the group. He is the center of attention and he totally enjoys it. How do you match his value? By befriending him!
If you want his respect and attention the best thing to do when you approach him is to match his body language and speaking patterns. If he has open body language and he talks with excitement and joy, don’t go there with crossed arms and with an attitude of negating his words.
Approach him with the same amount of excitement and show openness and interest.
19) When someone insults you, either ignore him or mock him. Never lose temper. Always control the frame.
Haters are everywhere. The more you feed them with hate, the stronger they become. Never lose your temper. This is a great example of how to deal with a hater. Enjoy!
19) Stand up straight, have warm hands and always keep eye contact.
• Keep a straight posture and walk like a born leader. This sub-communicates confidence and others will respect you automatically.
• Keep your hands out of your pockets. If you don’t know what to do with them, it is better to fold your arms rather than keep them inside your pockets.
• Keep your hands warm. If you have a warm hand when you shake somebody’s hand, you immediately become a more desirable person to get along with. Secret Tip – wash your hands with warm water often to keep them warm or take cold showers.
• You have heard this a thousand times. Here is the 1001st. – never lose eye contact! Losing eye contact is like losing your confidence. One cool trick when first meeting someone is to focus on their eye color and smile at the same time. The eyes are the gateway to the soul, and taking the extra second to gaze shows you are confident and present. (Be sure to move your eyes away periodically, a constant stare will creep people out.)
20) The Benjamin Franklin Effect.
The Ben Franklin effect is a psychological finding:
A person who has done someone a favor is more likely to do that person another favor than they would be if they had received a favor from that person. Similarly, one who harms another is more willing to harm them again than the victim is to retaliate.
This is an unbelievable finding. In social situations, you can hack this by making someone do something small for you, then asking for your true favor. It’s such a small favor that they will say yes, and due to cognitive dissonance their brain will rationalize that they must like you enough to do you a favor in the first place. This is also called the foot-in-the-door effect.
21) Don’t be afraid to touch another person.
Touching someone on the shoulder or their knees creates an emotional and physical bond. Especially during moments of joy, laughter and excitement touching positively reinforces these traits. If you’re uncomfortable with touching, remember 12, fake it until you make it.
22) Use the door-in-the-face hack.
The opposite of foot-in-the-door. Make an unreasonably large request that will most likely be turned down (but if it isn’t then that’s even better!), and follow up with your true intended, more reasonable request. The other person will be more likely to agree to the second request.
23) Always frame a request as a choice.
No one likes to feel pressured into doing something they don’t want to do. By subtlety rephrasing a request, you can make the person feel like they came to the decision on their own terms.
Homeless people who say things like, “it’s up to you if you want to donate or not” end up making more money than those who simply ask for money. The same is generally true for bands that offer “pay what you want” payment structures for their music. They know you can easily download their music for free off the internet, so they encourage you to pay what you feel is right.
24) If you work in a bar or in customer service of any kind…
Put a mirror behind you at the counter. When an angry customer approaches you, he will have to see himself in the mirror and will most probably calm down. Nobody likes ruining his image.
25) Chew gum if you are nervous.
Evolutionarily speaking, our brains assume that if we are eating then we aren’t in any immediate danger, so the fight or flight response is weakened.
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The Dumping Grounds
Why modern CGI feels less real then 90’s CGIMedia
Michael Jordan stops by the Bulls practice. Corey Benjamin says to him:”I’m sorry you retired, because I wanted to take you.”
Criss Angel Illusion Magic Goes VERY Wrong
Confederate Flag Parade – Wait for it..
Dog gets a ball pit for its birthday
The Singer 911: All You Ever Wanted to Know
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Awesome Stuff Around The Internet
Hottie of the week: Caitlin Arnett – Bro My God
The Dogs That Ride The Subway In Russia – Ned Hardy
Wow…Yoga Pants Are Really Is A Beautiful Thing! – Hexagram
Five Hugely Successful Companies That Almost Failed – Worthly
Hannah Ferguson’s Galore-ious Bikini Photoshoot – Crowd Ignite
10 of the Craziest Military Training Exercises – Linkiest
Loading A Truck Onto A Ship With Wooden Planks…Crazy f**ks! – Leenks
Walmart Is Very Sorry It Made an ISIS Cake – Gawker
Emma Watson at the British Summertime Festival in London – G-Celeb
This American Bro: A Portrait of the Worst Guy Ever – VICE
Ali Cobrin is Sexy (34 Photos) – Radass
How Music Producer Scott Storch Amassed a $30 Million Fortune and Blew It Overnight – Complex
23 Celebrity Couples We Forgot About – Regretful Morning
Rappers Reveal Their Favorite Way to Get F*cked Up – First We Feast
Nicole Scherzinger is on vacation and in a bikini – Celeb Slam
15 Albums That Cost a Fortune to Make – Mental Floss
The 30 Funniest Strip Club Names Of All Time – World Wide Interweb
How To Clear Out A Ton Of Space On Your iPhone Super Fast – Digg
3 Absolutely Bizarre Sports You’ve Never Heard Of – Double Viking
Everything You Need To Know About The Unfolding Greek Crisis – Quartz
Boys Go Nuts For Busty Girls (50 Photos) – Bad Sentinel
Man Figures Out How To Make His Lawn Mow Itself – Youtube
Paris Hilton Cries for Her Life When She Thinks She’s Going to Die in Plane Prank – The Blemish
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Another Smoking Hot Spanish TV Host: Andrea Rincon
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Behold, I Present To You 14 Glorious GIFs!
Just a blind dog playing fetch
Steven Matz’ grandpa watches his grandson’s MLB debut
Link to the video of his grandson’s performance
NOPE!
That’s how you win a race!
How to pick up older chicks at a baseball game, and keep the prize.
Gaining the trust of a scared homeless dog
Kitten makes friends with cameraman
Cutting a watermelon
How to wake up your dog
Mistakes were made
When Shaq walks up to you and starts rubbing your beard, you just sit there and enjoy it
Hockey Treadmill
And this is why I don’t own a motorcycle
He survived and his injuries according to his youtube comments were
Broken femur, tibia, fibula, ulna and humerus. My arm is almost back, it’s still stiff from the cast and I will be able to walk again. I got very lucky. No real permanent injuries.
Silverback Gorilla attempts to comfort a child that has fallen into his enclosure
How much can a silverback gorilla bench press?
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34 Naughty Dogs That Deserved To Be Publicly Shamed
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Then And Now (38 Photos)
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Woman Describes What It’s Like To Be Asexual
OK, here’s how basic asexuality works for me. And it took me until 40 to figure it out. The only times I’ve wanted sex, was simply out of hope that This Would Be It, I would finally feel what other people feel!
Aaaand it never happened. Sex for me was an awkward, boring, kind of gross experience. Every single time.
And I was married and had three kids.
I faked it, EVERY TIME. Because it was always a weird, messy, body function that was slightly more pleasant than washing dishes. A chore.
I lost my virginity at 21, because I was curious. And I thought, “That’s it?”
After I divorced. I tried dating a bunch of times. I had emotional crushes on people (men and women both), but it never went sexual. No matter how much I wanted it to. I would get crushes on celebrities and fictional characters, but never pictured myself doing The Deed with them.
I would have sex with men I dated. And I always and to fake it no matter how much I liked the guy. And I really liked some of the guys an awful lot.
Whenever I did masturbate, I would picture someone who wasn’t me having things done to them that were hot. It was usually two guys, because I don’t know what it feels like to be a guy, so I can make up what it feels like.
In my “fantasy” sex mind, sex always feels like how I want it to feel. Basically just the orgasm part. And orgasms are great and all, but not nearly as important to me as it is to most people.
Ugh this is hard to explain. I once had a mad crush on a man, when I was in the Navy. He was the husband of a friend, and I just adored this guy. He was funny and awesome! I wanted to hang around him all the time. I wanted to be special to him.
It was never sexual. I just didn’t understand that at 20.
Later, in my 30s, after he divorced my then ex-friend, I had a fling with him. When he said he was attracted to me, I got really anxious. But I had my little crush. I went and visited him. We had sex and it ruined my crush. Because sex was still gross and awkward. This guy was not bad at sex. But when we became sexual, the awesome crushy friend part went away.
I’ve never fallen in love. I’ve never felt more than a crush. And to me a crush feels like the excitement you get when you get involved in a hobby or a fandom. That rush of fun and wanting to know everything.
The love I feel for my kids is entirely different. It’s so intense it almost physically hurts. And it doesn’t feel like crush/obsessive hobbies at all. It’s a need. It’s this protectiveness. This wanting to make the world perfect for them. It’s caring about everything. How they feel, what they want, what makes them happy. What’s best for them even if it hurts me. They’re EVERYTHING. When I hold my kids, I feel warm and cuddly and that pang in my chest. I feel what they feel. I try to see everything from their POV. I want to kiss all the ouchies and makes everything better. My kids are teenagers now. I still feel that intense protectiveness and delight. And fear. And hope.
Love should be like that, I assume. Different, of course, but with that same forever feeling.
Here’s my best analogy:
Sex is like beer to me. I don’t like beer. I want to like beer. It looks awesome. Especially all icy on a hot day. I like the idea of a good beer. I appreciate the description of a high quality beer.
But it all tastes bad to me. I can make myself drink it. If I’m drunk I don’t even taste it. But it all tastes bad in the same way, and I can’t tell good from bad.
I can pretend in my head that beer tastes like hard cider or my some awesome carbonated juice. But actual beer is bitter and horrible.
So, actual sex and actual beer are two things I never want. No matter who talented the lover, or how finely crafted the brew. It makes me sad, actually.
So that’s asexuality for me. And 20 years of trying didn’t fix it.
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